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Opposite situation and psychic gifts always good?

Li-la

Senior Member
Hello everyone,

I have two questions that I am hoping someone can find it in their heart to answer.

First I need to give you the background story:

I remember a past life where I was Laura and had a turbulent marriage. Under separation I began an affair with a soldier who later died during WW1. Me and my husband reconciled. We had a surviving son, but there was some doubt as to whom was the biological father; the soldier or my husband. We were both in different ways marked after the war. When the child died my world was shattered. We continued to try to survive this tragedy. One evening we were on the collision and later during the night I left him and the home on a horse. He later visited me where I stayed and wanted a second chance. I would not give it to him, to us. When I came to pick up my personal belongings I found him hanged outside the home. The tragedy of his death would follow me.

Now to the present time. My daughter would describe seeing a ghost who looked just like this husband. I would during meditation or crazy dreams experience contact with him.

Then one day, at work, a man shows up to work for us. He looks like this husband. He has the mannerism of this husband. He has the eyes of this husband. The eyes are important.

I promised myself to stay as far as I could from this man, but us being at the same working place does not always make this easy, especially around lunch.

From when he started to work he has changed his appearance and now has the same haircut etc that he had at the late part of our marriage, after the war ended.

Everytime he looks at me it is as if he owns me, I can't explain all the emotions, the energy he lets out, and the chemistry between us. The husband use to own people with his eyes. This is not something I can explain very well.

I think the husband had psychic abilities from that life that he then turned his back on the church and became a rancher and a general instead. He was aware of my gift, but did not wish for them to be developed nor did he always acknowledge them to be real.

Somehow I think my co-worker still has psychic gifts.

My first question is: Why has this situation, where the tables are turned, now appeared in my life? In my past life I was in love with the man I had an affair with, and I thought me and my husband would divorce, but in those days it was the husband who had better chance at getting a divorce. He had left me during a fight, but from his view he had not left me at all. I am happily married and have done everything in my power to stay away from this man, as much as I can. I just don't understand why he is back in my life. To freak me out even more is that one time it was as if I heard his voice inside my head, saying "Laura", 2-3 times, and then "Laura, look at me.". Almost as if I was mesmerized I looked up from what I was doing. Across the room, sitting down, there he was, the man in my office, even though I had not known he was sitting there before. He looked up from his cellphone the moment I glanced in his direction, held eye contact and smiled politely. I made effort to smile back. Hurried away, as soon as I could, just when he was to open his mouth. When I got back to my own office space I thought to myself I must be crazy. That did not just happen.

The second question is if someone with a psychic gifts is always good? In the past life I experienced my husband use his gifts for varies of things, not just good. He has those eyes. He has a way of penetrating into one's most vulnerable secrets, or that is at least the feeling.

I always use to think that people who has this gift or other gifts above the natural were good people and using their gift for good things. Now I am not so sure.

I did not intend to write so much. My apologies.

Please, help me with your experience, opinion(s).

Thank you for reading.

Best Wishes
Li-La
 
Hi Li-La,

This is a difficult situation. Sometimes people meet again for the purpose of closure. In your case to break up for good.
 
Hi Fireflydancing,

thank you for your reply.

It is strange that in the past life I was married to him and had an affair with the man, Joe, who is now reincarnated as my current husband.

I don't know why it is in the back of my head that if one misuse one's gift for bad that it will take away the gift or that one will be punished for it. I just can't say if this is something I have been told from my current life or if it is something from my past life as Laura.

We were both then as children, different stages, I believe he was older, when being taken in by the church. My paranormal "gifts" was that I predicted a fire. That there were unexplained small fires at home. That I saw ghosts and could communicate to them. It was in the church belief to treat me with kindness and love, if so they believed I would become a good person. There were still rules that I out of instant fear did not dare to object, especially if the man of the house told me something. I was lucky because the family I came to live with, part of the church, were good to me. I would say that the husband, father of this family, the priest, also had psychic ability. Again, there is something in the eyes. I wish I could explain this in a way that make sense.

I think Laura's husband was taken in after having been outcast by his family because of the father of this family that he had went against. He had tried to protect his mother and siblings. He stood up to his "father" (being the oldest, but also I doubt that this was his real father) who was violent. Being homeless he was then whipped on the back and spent time in jail. It was a crime then, in New Zealand, to be a homeless child, teenager and wander the streets. Then the church got hold of him. In the paper I have only found that he married one couple. That is about all the work that I could see that he did as a minister, after his education with them.

There are things that make me think he had psychic gifts too, and also in this life. He knows what one is going to say before one say it. He has a very sharp mind. He has to hold back, I have seen it now many times. His energy is moving faster on the inside, but on the outside he has built up a mask. His eyes are special. It almost hurts me as much in real life to look into them as it does when I have faced his "copy". I must look away. When I was the young teenager who first met his eyes, I could feel the change. The connection was so powerful. It changed me forever. All that had happened was that our eyes met.

He knows I have little skin. His emotion. His will. Will take over, unless I use all my power to not make it happen. I am better at this when I am not dreaming or am meditating. Then I have no skin. There is the part of my soul that wish to be with him. It has nothing to do with romance, attraction, even if this had been our roles to play in the past life. I know it sounds pathetic considering what he has done in the past and considering my present situation where I do live in a happy marriage. I know I have done nothing wrong and I don't have any bad thoughts. I am not in love with him.

I hope he is more healed. More good in this life than what he was like in the past life, during and after the war.

I still wonder, though, if having these gifts walk hand in hand with being a good person (we all like to think we are good persons) or if one can have a gift, or gifts, regardless of what.

I did it again, didn't I? Me writing so much. I apologize.

Best Wishes

Li La
 
Thank you Ken for the advice.

I have realized that I was not the good golly girl I thought I was as Laura. When I was involved with Joe, I became pregnant. He knew of the new pregnancy. Then he died. My husband use to write letters and wished for us to get back together. When Joe was alive I was only waiting for my husband to find the time to divorce me. He was in no hurry. I think Joe even tried to make him hurry up, and when he did this he stepped out on thin ice. After Joe's death I returned to my husband. My defense, not excuse, is that the shame, the society's and the church's harsh judgment, would have fallen on the child and me and it would have been too hard to handle. It made me make the choice to act as if everything was as it should be. I did not tell my husband he was not the true father. It was not that I was insecure of the matter. I knew. As this came to me the shame was intolerable. I understand now that he knew this. That this was meant to happen. Instead of becoming his cruel father (read stepfather) my husband treated this child with care. He was a better man. There were invisible blood on the walls of our home as he had during the war killed the child's true father, Joe, and while doing so making me utterly vulnerable to return to my husband as he then had wished. I escaped my broken heart and grief over Joe. I still loved my husband, but nothing was the same after that. We did both enjoy being parents, what a child did to our home. We had both wanted children in the past.

It was explained why his ghost or copy was drawn to my daughter and watching over her when she was younger. She looked like a copy of me in this life, and in the life as Laura, and how he thought our daughter, who was born premature, would have looked like. He is also drawn to her because we belong to the same soul group. Just like him, just like I, only stronger my daughter has strong gifts. I don't know if it is her age. If it is her soul that is naturally at this stage. When she was my second mom (the mother of the family that took me in) she and her husband and their children moved to the US after I/Laura married my/her husband. From my memories of my daughter she stood behind her husband, the priest, and had a serious and pleasant aura to her. She was sensitive. She had an explosive kind of temper. It would go from zero to 100 in a blink of an eye. My daughter is the same way. For her sake I have stayed out of meditation and trying to communicate to beings on the other side. When I do our home transform into a ghost-residence and it take much "cleaning" afterwards. Do you have any advice, or anyone else, how to get around this?

My daughter naturally gets freak out by this as she says she see many ghosts in our home, especially when she is trying to sleep, or ghosts that are deliberately trying to wake her up. She does not wish to talk to any of them. She is still, years of this, afraid to go from one floor to the second and the other way around. She won't go into a room and close the door behind her and play there alone. Separate from this she has advanced at school and they have asked us several times to have her skip one class. She has many friends and seem to enjoy life otherwise. It is of course in my interest to keep her feeling as safe as possible.

My husband does not believe in any paranormal aspects. When paranormal things has happened in our home he freaks out then and there, but later he will try to come up with some other explanation for it, or simply not wanting to talk about it. He would never allow me to take our daughter to see a specialist within this field to advice me how to go forward. Because I am no expert and need to feel that I can protect her, I have stayed out of the paranormal zone.

I wish to try, though, to see if I can get an answer by asking a guide, still I wish to not have any paranormal activity increase itself during or after in our home, as it especially effects my daughter in a bad way.

Best Wishes
Li La
 
Aren't your daughter's guides able to stop the ghosts? Take cake of your self, I don't see previous lives as you can.
 
I don't know... I never thought of asking. I have only prayed in the past for help to make my daughter feel more safe and to lock out the bad beings when things were so intense. These days our home is perfectly calm. I don't experience things, but I think my daughter is maybe afraid she will experience paranormal activity or she is experiencing it, still, but wish to ignore it. She is old enough now to know who to talk to about this and who to not. She has confided in me, but it has to be on her terms. I try to study her to see if she is alright.

It is unrealistic to me that all that activity start when I meditate and get worse the more I do it. Things has happened that no one will believe. One example is that glasses, strong made glass will suddenly, without being exposed to harm, cold or hot, explode all on their own, just smash into many pieces. In the store they deny it could happen. Even if it happens before my eyes, and other people's eyes, one still can't explain it.

Today I have had one of those days at work where not much had worked for me. If it was not my computer, it was my phone, and the printer. If that was not enough a new problem emerged with another machinery that should not even be able to occur and expert says it has never happened before and don't know what to do. The man I am talking about has been unusually near me today, we have both moved closely to those machines, but generally speaking this has been going on for a while now, he chose personal contact instead of going through any other channel, and even if that is to prefer when it concerns other people, I am still uncomfortable with it. When I have tried to chose contact using mail he will not ever answer it and will instead talk to me face to face. I one time asked him (through mail) if he had not happen to make a mistake about something when he in a gentleman style found and talked to me about that it was no mistake on his part and explained his behavior. I have tried to make him dislike me, but that is not working. He is also in a position similar to my past as Laura, that is he was seen as more important (general) than what I did (assistant nurse) during the war, now at our work. I thought maybe he would dismiss me, especially if I was rude enough to point out a fault, but he did/does not react in that manner. I have to learn to relax more around him, but it is difficult, for me. When my husband came to pick me up after work one day he saw him and for some reason said straight away "Who is that?". My husband is not jealous. Followed by "He is not making any moves towards you, is he?". He is usually not at all like that. I work with a lot of men every day and he has met a lot of them and he has never said anything like that, and how he said it, and straight away.

I will prepare my daughter's guide to keep her safe before I start the process of asking guide to please tell me why he is back, what is the best thing to do.

Thank you for the advice :)

Best Wishes
Li-La
 
Li-La,

I think the main problem is to set boundaries. I know this will be a tough thing to accomplish for you (being the great empath that you are). But it is so very important to do.

You are always balancing between the 'yes' and 'no' which makes it easy for less sympathetic people to take advantage of you. If you say 'no' but you still leave your door open, some crooks will always try to step in (just because they can).

If you don't want your former husband in your life, you should block him for good. Stop empathizing with him. Don't explain to us (and yourself) his thoughts, wishes, and feelings. I certainly know that this is almost impossible for you to do because it is your very essence to feel and understand people. Maybe you are not aware that empaths are the number one victim for narcissists and psychopaths. Such a sad thing because empaths are such lovely people. They always see the good in others, no matter how small this 'good' may be. Their problem is not to set boundaries to people and situations that are potentially or actually harmful to themselves.

The same goes for uninvited and unwanted presences in your house. You say you don't want them but apparently your door is wide open. Apparently you are indecisive because they are still there and present. You can throw them out for good if you're 100% certain about it.

Whether this co-worker is your former husband or not, he certainly offers you the opportunity to start practicing your new skills to learn. Don't get obsessed with him and his probable past, just start to learn to cut off and let go. Just start to learn to be a bit 'rude for the good'. You can do it, use your own inner wisdom about self-respect in moments of doubt.
 
Li-La,

I think the main problem is to set boundaries. I know this will be a tough thing to accomplish for you (being the great empath that you are). But it is so very important to do.

You are always balancing between the 'yes' and 'no' which makes it easy for less sympathetic people to take advantage of you. If you say 'no' but you still leave your door open, some crooks will always try to step in (just because they can).

If you don't want your former husband in your life, you should block him for good. Stop empathizing with him. Don't explain to us (and yourself) his thoughts, wishes, and feelings. I certainly know that this is almost impossible for you to do because it is your very essence to feel and understand people. Maybe you are not aware that empaths are the number one victim for narcissists and psychopaths. Such a sad thing because empaths are such lovely people. They always see the good in others, no matter how small this 'good' may be. Their problem is not to set boundaries to people and situations that are potentially or actually harmful to themselves.

The same goes for uninvited and unwanted presences in your house. You say you don't want them but apparently your door is wide open. Apparently you are indecisive because they are still there and present. You can throw them out for good if you're 100% certain about it.

Whether this co-worker is your former husband or not, he certainly offers you the opportunity to start practicing your new skills to learn. Don't get obsessed with him and his probable past, just start to learn to cut off and let go. Just start to learn to be a bit 'rude for the good'. You can do it, use your own inner wisdom about self-respect in moments of doubt.
Thank you very much, Firefly, for the reply. I have read your words now several times and let it sunk in. A little of what you write is what other people has told me in this life, only I have not thought of myself as a great empath. All I know is that I many times see people hurting and am surprised that others don't see it like I do. I know too that I have thin layer so when someone is feeling angry, furious with me it is as if they hold ten guns pointed at me, I have none, it is as if they take over, that I can feel their emotions and their perspective of things. If it is bad feelings directed at me I soon am very little of myself. As this happens during meditation or a remembering of a moment with Laura's first husband I can see her or me behave in the same ways, hold the hands over my eyes. With my later life as Anna, married to Vito, I would look down, especially my hands were a good thing to look at, but I think I did this because I felt too much of what another person was feeling.

What you say about boundaries is true. So when you wrote that I could not believe how accurate you were/are. In my past life as Anna, married to Vito I felt he was too much a disciplinarian with the children, especially the oldest, a son, as if he wanted to statue an example. I know we fought over this. He thought if he let him get away with something that the others, who looked up to him, would follow, looking up to their big brother. Just yesterday evening we were out to eat on a restaurant, and throughout our time there I realized that as soon as my husband tells our daughter something, about her behavior, use the fork there, alright, keep it down a little, little things here and there, that it is as if he has naturally taken over the disciplinarian role. He does not expect me to say something, and I didn't either. It is strange that one can be so blind to one's own behavior. We did enjoy our time there at the restaurant and she did not take offense to his disciplinarian words now and then. So I must train myself to be more like my husband in other aspects of life too. Definitely.

None to less paranormal things happen now in our home. Also I have not meditated for long. It could be that I have shut down. Only then there is my daughter. We have talked and she knows that if she see any ghost or anything to tell it to leave. With me it is a form of "fresh gift" that unless I keep it going it will with time go away. I have experienced through memories that I was more advanced in the life as Laura. In the life as Anna I saw that people had auras around them which helped me define "good from bad", only realizing that no one else saw this, and instead they judged people from income, background, dialect, rumor etc. I remember as Anna my very surprise when seeing a man the family had put down and when I saw him he had all the good coloring from his aura all around him, inside him, and it was beyond me to understand how one could view the same man so opposite. In my life I don't see this at all with people, I would be shocked if that happened, wondering if I accidentally have eaten a space-cake.

Thank you so much for the "tough love"- kind of words :)

Best Wishes
Li-La
 
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People with psychic gifts can be good or bad. It's a pretty gray area imo.

Being psychic is a tricky path to walk on. In a sense, it'd be easy to sort of let those abilities turn you into someone with bad intentions.

Going off of what fireflydancing said, you need to put your foot down. Look into psychically protecting yourself too.
 
When cleaning my folders, I fund this and felt it would apply here.
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This text is only halfway. Loving a person doesn't mean you have to accept all the flaws and abuses. You can love someone and still walk away. The trap for empaths is that they feel obliged to this 'love feeling'. Just because they are caple to unconditional love, it doesn't mean they need to suffer to prove that fact. They don't have to because there is no gain in it for both sides. The abuser doesn't learn (if ever capable of learning) and the empath just suffers.

They just have to step into the next level: yes, I love you and no, I don't want you to be around me. No more strings attached!
 
Sorry I am here again, but it is about me having a question. I should apologize before of my nutty writing.

At work hours before it happened I suddenly, more and more, felt symptoms and feelings of a man in the building, I did not know if this man was at all in the building, presumption not as this person had a time to be there some hours later, and then no lunch. I have never had these kind of symptoms before. I thought I had imagined this or that it was symptom of stress.. It would go away, little by little and I continued with my work. Then around lunch-hour it came in a big wave inside me, it is hard to explain, and soon after I rushed to where I could find this person, on another floor, at office, just left my lunch to say I would return soon. We had to call ambulance soon after to help him, he had the symptoms I had experienced him having.

I am sorry I am about to mention the suspected reincarnation of Laura's past life husband again, but beside from me he was suddenly turning up from nowhere, as if he knew too, he should have had lunch, I just don't know where he came from, when all of this happened.

In the mess I felt like wanting to talk to this suspected reincarnated soulmate afterwards, privately to ask him if he had felt any of the symptoms I had felt, had felt as if I was this other man, but of course I didn't. Then perhaps they would have called an ambulance again to get me away to a lunatic hospital ;)

It is as if what-ever-this-now-is is getting stronger and different just because he is around? Could that be? Could it be because I suspect he has gifts that what ever this connection now is - it can increase and change my gift ? Could I have gotten his gift?

Has anyone else here on this forum has experienced something similar ? Then I think that it is perhaps only coincidence or a few coincidences happening after one another?

Best Wishes

Li-La
 
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