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britishmum

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I was bought up to be christian so when my 2 year old son started talking about what we could only guess was a past life it was quite a shock!

When my son first started talking he would always talk about his 'other' grandad. As the days and weeks and months past more details would follow.

His other grandads name was 'Grandad Dapnee' (he pronounced it dap-knee).
Grandad lived on a farm in France with Auntie, though she wasnt a really auntie just someone who helped on the farm. One of the things that astounded us was that he told us 'Auntie doesnt wear clothes like you mummy, she wears long skirts down to the ground and she feeds the chickens corn from a pail!' Well here in England nobody uses the word pail, we say bucket!
One day we all went for a walk and passed through a churchyard, my son pointed to a grave and said, my other Grandad's buried in one of those.
My son was a very restless sleeper and would wake upset every night at 4am in the morning without fail.

Once he reached the age of 4 the memories started to fade, and although he could clearly remember the name Grandad Dapnee he became confused and distressed and said things like 'was Grandad dapnee a imaginary friend, I dont remember any more'

He is a very sensitive child and so many people have said he is an incredibly deep thinker, and that he has knowledge beyond his years. This is sort of stange in itself as he struggles at school and has some learning needs, but even at school his teachers say in R.E he is very determined about what he believes and shares some very interesting and mature views with the class.

My son is now 8 and doesnt talk about Grandad anymore but last summer things took a whole new turn and I am really quite confused and dont really know who to talk to as, I think people will think I am mad and my son is odd, but I am not the only one to of witnessed his various 'talkings'.

I would appreciate any views anybody has, as I have never really shared this before.
 
Hi British Mum!


First of all, welcome to the Forum! I'm glad you found us, and thank you for sharing yours and your son's experience here. We appreciate how difficult that can be.


What you describe of your son's behaviour and remarks as a 2 year old is most likely to be past life related, in my opinion.

Britishmum wrote:
Once he reached the age of 4 the memories started to fade, and although he could clearly remember the name Grandad Dapnee he became confused and distressed and said things like 'was Grandad dapnee a imaginary friend, I dont remember any more'
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I think it is easy for a child of that age to get confused about things that such a short while ago seemed so clear and doubtless in their minds. Their perspective changes, their awareness (of present life and wordly things) is expanding, and eventually the memories of past lives begin to fade. So, while it is a possibility that Grandad Dapnee was indeed an imaginary friend, his confusion - and that conclusion he made - may be also due to all those changes he was experiencing at the time.


I would love to hear more about the memories he described between 2 and 4, when his memories were most vivid.


I'm a mother myself, and your son reminds me of my own oldest boy. ;) He is only 6 now, almost seven, and a deep thinker too. I understand what you mean when you say your son struggles at school - IMO, many "deep thinkers" face that challenge. In my son's case, minor ajustments in his school activities, obviously discussed with his teacher, did go a wonderful long way in helping him.

British mum said:
My son is now 8 and doesnt talk about Grandad anymore but last summer things took a whole new turn and I am really quite confused and dont really know who to talk to as, I think people will think I am mad and my son is odd, but I am not the only one to of witnessed his various 'talkings'.
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I wonder if you could elaborate a little on this - and don't worry, everyone in this forum has occasionally doubted their sanity (at least I have :laugh:). Feel free to share - when you are ready.


If you are in any way concerned about sharing these recent situations but feel that you need to, please feel free to PM me - we will assist in every way we can.


Thank you, and again, welcome


Love and Light


Welsh at Heart
 
Ok, I really not sure about posting this but here goes....


Last summer we did a big family and friends outing to Hever Castle in Kent. My son was really excited about the prospect of exploring a big castle and was running from room to room. He headed into one room (with me trying to keep up) and no sooner did in get in the room, he turned in panic and ran out. I was just approaching the entrance to the room and he ran straight into me, he was clearly in a state. He kept saying 'I'm not going back in there, you cant make me, I wont go back in.' I looked in the room and saw nothing but a old room with a four poster bed, a chair and sets of drawers etc. Meanwhile a lady who worked there came to see what all the noise was about. I asked my son what was the matter and he said 'There was a scary man in there, stood just behind the door and he was staring at me' He then ran off to his dad. I looked up to apoligise to the lady, and she had gone white. She told me that room belonged to Henry the eighth and in the years she worked there 2 other people had said the exact same thing and they had been known psychics.


Later that day we visited the gift shop in the grounds of the castle, my son pointed to a postcard and said shakily 'thats the man I saw' - it was Henry the eighth.


The story continues but is too much for me to be able to share on the forum at this stage.


I think this next bit is really the reason I need to know more about what my son says. I have never told him what he says is wrong and I have never encouraged it, this has always been my rule and I made this very clear to family and friends who often witnessed the things that were said.
 
Britishmum,


I would not be too concerned. It is actually a good thing that the lady who worked at the castle verified that Henry's ghost was seen by others in that room. He was not a very nice man, by all accounts, and I imagine he would be an intimidating ghost.


I recall very clearly in my late teens being in a MacDonalds, ridiculously enough, where a child at the next table to me was very clearly seeing someone sitting at a table in an empty, roped off section of the restaurant. He said to his mother several times 'Who is that man over there?' I am pretty psychic but I could see no one. But this child definitely could do. His mother, a rather harassed mother, with a number of other kiddies, told him there was no one and to stop being silly. But the little boy kept looking. Even when they left he turned round and looked over his shoulder at this 'empty' table.


I have always wondered what he saw, as clearly the person was worthy of comment. Brand new MacDonalds, but who is to say it was not built on an Indian graveyard or heaven knows what - some old settler's land? I know the boy saw something and I wished the mother had had the sense to ask him what he saw instead of dismissing it.


Maxine
 
Welcome to the forum Britishmum,


There is a case on the forum that you might find interesting and comforting at the same time. Although tragic, it is the LOVE between brothers and the rebirth of one of them that speaks volumes.


The Jesse (Tommy & Rocky) case.


Discussion about the case can be found here should you wish to comment or ask questions.
 
Hi Britishmum and welcome! Thank you for sharing about your son and I hope you continue to share whatever you're comfortable with. :) I think you're doing a fine job balancing on that edge of not encouraging your son and not dismissing it either. I've also had the experience of my littlest son looking off at "someone" or "something" that I can't see myself. Gives me chills. LOL...Again, welcome :) and keep sharing with us.
 
Welcome to the forum britishmum,


Thank you for sharing your son's story with us. Please feel free to share whatever you are comfortable with, whenever you are ready to do so - :)


There are a lot of wonderful threads with valuable information, and our members are genuinely interested in helping and offering advice.


Aili
 
Hi britishmum, welcome to the forum :)


I can only agree with everything the others have said. Thanks for sharing your son's experiences here, it does sound as if he was remembering a past life. If you read through some of the other threads in the Children's section, you will see that nobody here will think that your son is odd, or that you are mad, on the contrary, your son sounds like an incredibly gifted little boy who is very lucky to have a Mum that he can open up to, without being made to feel that he is just imagining it all.


We're all here to listen to others, and help each other where we can, so I hope you will soon feel comfortable enough to share more, but only if or when you feel ready. Hope you enjoy the forum.


Chris :)
 
Ok, what a nice response this is some of the other stuff:


I think this next bit is really the reason I need to know more about what my son says. I have never told him what he says is wrong and I have never encouraged it, this has always been my rule and I made this very clear to family and friends who often witnessed the things that were said.


Deep breaths....


I awoke boxing day morning 08 to find the most terrible thing a parent can imagine, my 2 year old daughter had died in her sleep. She was a healthy child and no reason was found for her death.


The following night I got out of bed to walk across the landing and clear as anything I saw my daughter standing in front of me. She was not some ghostly image but absolutly solid and real. I could see the movement in her wispy curls and everything. But what struck me was the fact she looked so worn out as if she had run a marathon, her arms hung by her sides and her head was hung low she looked exhausted and not like I had ever seen my lively toddler before. I stood there looking for what seemed ages but I was totally aware she had died the previous night, and I thought either I am going mad - its the shock OR my God! There really is more than just this life, I was confused and closed my eyes tight, when I opened them she was gone.


The following evening the family, myself, my husband my 2 children and my mother and father in law were sitting down stairs 'watching telly' and trying to do 'normal' things for the sake of the other 2 children.


My father in law was sitting on the floor and my son said to him, 'Grandad did you know Hattie is with you' the rest of us looked at each other but keeping to my rule no one commented. Then he continued, 'she is standing behind you, resting her head on your shoulders and has her arms round your neck' at this point it became too much for my mother inlaw and she said to my son 'please tell me, does she look happy' to which my son replied, 'No grandma, she doesnt. She looks so so tired like she needs a big rest' - his description matched mine exactly.


He saw her again the foolowing day and told us please stop crying, remember I saw Hattie and she is with us.


The weeks that followed unexplainable things happened to the family, witnessed by many and we are not easy 'believers but none of us could explain some of the events'
 
Your son is lucky to have someone who treats him with respect. We all need someone who listens and supports us --- We are all different. Welcome and your sons story is interesting. It does sound like he saw a ghost. Not sure if it would be King Henry as I would have thought he would have moved onto another life after all of these years.?? Maybe we leave some imprints behind .. and he sure did make a big imprint historically.


Children are alot more sensitive to these things . There is some reason some people are more sensitve. One you might consider , since you mentioned he has some learning difficulties is how his health is affecting him. I found personally that having problems physically affected my sensitivity to the paranormal and spiritual . I have had my share of ghost stories and awareness of energies etc.


When one is under stress one becomes more introspective, and aware of the deeper inner workings of our souls. I myself suffered from several of the trials of the twentieth century which are now becoming understood... Autism, depression, obsessive/ compulsive disorder, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, memory and learning difficulties.. etc. are all things which nowadays have hope of healings given the right direction.


The health problems I had made it so that I was more aware of things than if i had not. There are many great websites, naturopaths, doctors interested in these newer problems with info who can help.


Just hoping that your son is not suffering but mentioning it in case;)
 
He has no current health problems. As far as his learning he is dyslexic and dyspraxic.


However when he was 10 days old he fell very ill, he weighed 10lb and within 3 days he had gone down to less then 5lb. He was in a high dependency unit and the doctors could not find out what was wrong with him. It got to the point where we were told he may not make it through the night and the hospital called a priest to come and pray with us. The following day my son when from strengh to strengh and after a few days was sent home, he had repeats of the same thing on and off for a year but never so bad. The doctors never found out what it was.
 
Hi britishmum,


First, let me pass along my condolences on the loss of your precious little girl. hug2.gif I can understand how terribly difficult it is to speak about. It sounds as if Hattie wants you to know - that she is okay.

britishmum said:
He saw her again the foolowing day and told us please stop crying, remember I saw Hattie and she is with us.
The weeks that followed unexplainable things happened to the family, witnessed by many and we are not easy 'believers but none of us could explain some of the events'
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Your son is right - our loved ones don't want us to be sad, and in their own way, they try to reach out to us to bring us comfort - to let us know they're okay and they love us. And it's perfectly fine to speak back to them, to let them know how much we love them and how they'll always be in our hearts. It doesn't surprise me that he saw his sister - children are naturally more open and accepting of these types of experiences. It seems like he was trying to comfort you in his own way - :)


Does your son still see her?


Aili
 
Hi britishmum,


I'm glad to hear that your son is over his health issues, but I'm so sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your daughter. I hope that by reading through some of the experiences of others here, you will find some comfort and reassurance that your daughter continues on her soul journey, and I hope her next life is a long and happy one.


You might find some value in this thread: Moving Through Grief


Please feel free to ask any questions about anything.


Chris hug2.gif
 
Hi Britishmum and welcome to the forum :)


I also want to offer my greatest condolences for the loss of your child. I too hope you will find some comfort and reassurance here.


Thank you very much for sharing your story.
 
A very warm welcome, Britishmum and my deepest sympathy to you and you family over the loss of your daughter, )*(Hattie)*(


It may be of interest that I have heard of other children who appeared tired when seen by family members soon after their passing. My thought is that this may be due to them continuing for a while to believe they are unwell or perhaps they are temporarily affected by the sudden grief of their loved ones.


With regard to Hever Castle and your son's experience there. I too have visited the castle and I am in no doubt that it is haunted. I think it also carries a lot of imprints of events of the past which is typical of very old buildings. I didn't notice anything in the room that is believed to have been used by Henry VIII, but in one of the corridors I felt a very heavy atmosphere and a creepy sensation passed over me. I would not want to be in that place alone, or go there at night! As I walked around, I prayed silently that any discarnate souls there would go to the light and find peace. Disturbingly, I sensed that someone there didn't like me doing this.


On the way out, I had a conversation with one of the staff and he said that many people had reported experiences there and seen different individuals including Henry VIII and Anne Boleyn (who is said to walk the gardens). He told me that grey apparitions had also been seen there by staff and visitors and some people had reported seeing a horse in one of the upper corridors. :confused: As I went back to the coach, I distinctly felt that someone had died in there who had been locked up.


Your son is obviously very 'open' and sensitive. I think an increasing number of children are these days. He is fortunate to have you as his mother. I am in no doubt that he remembers something of a past life when he lived in France with his grandfather and a lady who might have been a housekeeper on the farm. In bygone times, women, servants and children were responsible for feeding chickens, pigs etc, so he is right on the money with that one. The name he pronounced as Dapnee is probably Dabney, which is French and a corruption of d'Aubigne (pronounced dohbeenyee). There are various towns and villages in France with the name Aubigne. As you probably know, many surnames developed through a person being connected with their place of origin. e.g. Guillaume d'Aubigne - William of (or from) Aubigne. Dabney is almost unknown in the UK as a first name and rare as a surname. It would be extremely unlikely therefore that a young child would come up with such an unusual name of French origin if he didn't simply remember it from a past life.


The word pail was in common use in England from the 14th century. Your son may have become familiar with it through nursery rhymes such as "Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water...." Nevertheless, it is interesting that he used such an old fashioned word for a bucket when talking about Grandad Dapnee.


Hope all this is helpful to you.


Bless you!


Angelcat :)
 
In relations to the Hever Castle issue Most Haunted did a show there, which you can find on youtube.com. You can think what you want of the show and it's concept, but it's nevertheless interesting to hear the psychics descriptions of the various grounded spirits. You may find some validation in what they describe. I recognized some of what you described anyway, Angelcat :)
 
Hi britishmum. Your son's story is very interesting. I certainly think it sounds like he has psychic abilities and probably had past life memories too. I am so, so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. All the evidence on this forum suggests that death isn't the end, so I only hope that you can take comfort from this, as it seems very likely that you will, infact, see your daughter again one day.


I notice in one of your posts you mention your son was very ill as a baby. My son was also very ill when he was a baby (about 6 months old) and was in hospital for 2 weeks. This has made me wonder if this is perhaps a common theme in children who have psychic abilities and/or past life memories. Perhaps being so ill made them come into contact with "the other side" in some way, and therefore more sensitive to spiritual things once they recovered. Probably nothing in it, but I have to admit, it would be interesting to know how many of the other children whose stories are on this forum were very ill as babies, just to see if there is some kind of link.
 
Welcome to the forum, britishmum. Thank for you for sharing ... this is a great place to discuss things that most would find very difficult to talk about. And of course, in most cases, talking helps a lot.


Personally, I use the word bucket, but there are a lot of people on farms in America who still use the word pail, esp. for milking cows. The French word for both is "seau."
 
Hi Britishmum!


I'm very happy that you felt confortable enough to share your experiences (and your grief :( ) here with us. I believe (and hope!) you will find solace in the many voices in this Forum.


Again, thank you so very much for sharing!
 
Angelcat - thank you so much for the reference to the name, I had searched the internet for clues so many times when the 'Grandad' conversations were a daily occurance and stupidly I had never thought to spell it that way.


Sunniva and Angelcat


I will watch the most haunted episode - that will be interesting. When I was there I certainly felt quite a sad atmosphere in one of the large rooms, it was a very long hall like room, and the further I walked through it the stronger the feeling became. Unfortuantly as I mentioned before I was busy chasing after a excited 7 year old and so didnt have the time to read about the rooms or the history.
 
Delighted to have been of assistance, Britishmum! :thumbsup:


Sunniva, those YouTube Most Haunted videos were very interesting. I think that corridor that a member of staff didn't like walking down may well have been the one where I felt the heavy atmosphere. It just amazed me that one of the mediums felt there was a monk or priest there who was not at all friendly and had died hiding behind that door. Based on what I felt , I think he was locked in there, maybe intentionally by someone. I maybe wrong, of course. Oh yes, and the stuff about the horse in the upper corridor; it seems the mediums felt there had been one taken up there. Obviously that left an imprint which some people pick up on.


Anyhow, many thanks for that one. It validated my experiences. I hadn't realised I was as perceptive/psychic as I must be....I may have to start charging a fee! :laugh:


Angelcat :)
 
Welcome to the forum, Britishmum. :)


I'm very sorry for your family's tragic loss :( but I hope and believe you will find some answers and peer support to your experiences with your lovely son. :thumbsup:


Angelcat, those were some amazing validations. :cool


Karoliina
 
britishmum said:
Deep breaths....


I awoke boxing day morning 08 to find the most terrible thing a parent can imagine, my 2 year old daughter had died in her sleep. She was a healthy child and no reason was found for her death.
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My condolences, Britishmum, what a terrible thing it must have been for you! It's a while back now, so I hope you are feeling better - and what you and your son have been privileged to see must have helped...


Vicky32
 
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