Spirit Sword
Senior Member
These are questions that I grapple with all the time, and I don't really know if I have an answer. But like a sword can be used to attack a soldier or to defend an innocent, these skills can be used in peacetime as well as wartime. It is up to the wielder to decide how to use them. My theory is that if I continue to be mindful of my actions, to take steps to keep my focus on non-conflict solutions, I might be able to finish the transition from soldier to civilian. I don't know if I'm going to be able to finish that transition in this lifetime, but the best I can do is try to work towards it.
While it is important to know where you came from, it is vital that you not let this get in the way of the present. If you look back on your old choices and feel shame, then use it not as a reason to beat yourself up, but a tool to remind you of what you don't want to be anymore. The great part about remembering past lives is that you don't have to make the same mistakes again in this lifetime in order to learn from them. The memories can be painful, and it can be very hard not to let yourself get sucked in. My trick is how I deal with phrasing. If I start to think about things I did or people I was in the past, I often catch myself saying "I am X, or I am Y kind of person." Then I force myself to stop and say it differently, "I was X, or I was Y kind of person." This helps me to separate from my past, to allow me to move on, to give me hope for change.
I'm struggling with this too, Jim. Let's work through it together.
While it is important to know where you came from, it is vital that you not let this get in the way of the present. If you look back on your old choices and feel shame, then use it not as a reason to beat yourself up, but a tool to remind you of what you don't want to be anymore. The great part about remembering past lives is that you don't have to make the same mistakes again in this lifetime in order to learn from them. The memories can be painful, and it can be very hard not to let yourself get sucked in. My trick is how I deal with phrasing. If I start to think about things I did or people I was in the past, I often catch myself saying "I am X, or I am Y kind of person." Then I force myself to stop and say it differently, "I was X, or I was Y kind of person." This helps me to separate from my past, to allow me to move on, to give me hope for change.
I'm struggling with this too, Jim. Let's work through it together.