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bubblestoffeeco

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I have felt an immediate,irresistible attraction towards this man for the past 3 years.weird incidents

2003-i was 12 years old and i had this dream in which i heard something,you know like a catchphrase about a man whom i did not see.i remembered the catchphrase vividly but i didn't know who that man was.That catchphrase was his job accomplishment which he achieved in 2004 July but i saw that a year later!
NO mention of him again.

2008-on 31st march i saw him coming down the ramp way and immediately i blurted out that hes the man i heard about years ago and strangely he was the one!He was the one!
i liked him immediately and felt some sort of affinity.i was interested in a guy(WHO WAS 4 YEARS OLDER TO ME) but the same time that guy brought up a gf.i had no option and i forget about him.(again i made a bf but that too ended within 3 months.)
the entire year i felt that we might have been like brother and sister in past life due to our uncanny similarity.
i recognized his voice on an audio clip even though i had never heard it before.
2009-whatever i wanted him to achieve he accomplished that.i would get frustrated and then he would get something big in his career.
2010-didn't watch as much coz i was busy with my new bf but that guy turned out a villain and in just 3 months my relationship with him broke off.all of a sudden.we never fought or even had an argument yet break up.
suddenly flashes and images of his face began cropping up in my mind during April.i couldn't understand why coz i never liked him romantically.
i made up my mind that i had began to like him as every time i would see his face the moment i closed my eyes.
in September it dawned on me that maybe we had some connection but i didn't have much evidence apart from feelings.
every time i would arrive to watch him he would be there at the same time.

2011-in January i compared him to my ex thinking my ex was better coz he was single and younger and this man was attached and not good for me.for 3 days i remained upset as if someone had died.this man didn't come in my mind at all.finally i sincerely prayed that he was better than my ex and slowly i saw his face in my mind.the next day when i shampooed my hair black water came out of my hair as if i had colored my hair!though i shampooed everyday!and i was cheerful and he was back in my mind.
Images showing him celebrating with a blonde girl which got verified.he achieved something big in his career on 3rd may and i had the image on 4th may at night. i checked on 5th and found out.
He had a concussion and i was practically distressed.
He was suppose to go to a party(always went)but this time i felt somehow that he wouldn't come and just exactly he didn't come!
I had a feeling that he had gone somewhere and i should check his website (as i had feelings of desperation) and when i checked he had gone to a radio event on 18th July and i found out on 19th.
November 2011-i received a strange box from a marketplace with his name allover it!!!i couldn't believe my eyes!
his name,full and complete!i still have that box and i am still in shock!
He shaved off his beard but i liked him in that look so i was really disappointed,hoping him to grow it again and the next week he started growing it again!
December 2011-i had a dream or an image in which i read something about him being sidelined from his company's big event and the next day reports were filled with such rumors but luckily he was sidelined,he took a 3 week break from work.

January-FEB 2012-i see him in my dreams.and just two days ago i felt deep penetration between my legs twice in my dream as if he was having sex with me.i actually felt it.
My head is constantly filled with his thoughts.i want to get rid of him but just cant no matter how hard i try.i am only 20 hes 31.I did everything to get rid of him but either someone crops up his name or someone gifts me his pictures.every time he keeps reappearing.When i close my eyes i see his face,whenever i see him i get goosebumps or strange sensations in my heart too.he refuses to go.as if hes always with me.and i have this sudden strange urge to go to US and whoever tries to distract me moves away from my life(my 2 bfs).

how can i forget him when he isn't going away.i don't want to be with him as hes attached but yet it persists.
We have similarities,like the way we sit,talk,behavior,palm shape and palm lines are almost the same,tastes,choices,early school life its like we are mirrors but we do have our differences.
He is eleven years older than me..my head is filled with him.what is it/???

why is he in my life???why do i feel such intensity towards him??
I had two horrible boyfriends(in 2008 and 2010) and soon the relationship would end.and i would be back to him.
is this a reuniting procedure?
 
Greetings bubbles! Welcome to our forum!


Wow it certainly seems as though you have some deep connection to this person. And naturally those of us who know and attempt to understand reincarnation are quick to wonder what their past life connection is. But that is never an easy answer to find. One way that many of us have used is Past Life Regression Therapy. You can explore that here in many different threads. You can also begin your own meditation practice that some people find helpful in recalling past adventures. There are many guided regression CDs out there that will talk you through a regression session.


I would suggest that if you are really interested in learning more you study reincarnation by reading this forum and the many, many great books out there. Get a good understanding of it and then begin your personal journey of discovery. Actually I think you'll find that as you study the theory more and more of your own truths will be revealed.


All of us encounter people that trigger past memories. I am one of them too. And like you I was thrown a little off course by this person. But the biggest lesson I learned was that the story was not about her. It was not about something I could obtain or somehow recover in this life... it was about love. It was about knowing... knowing that in a life 100 years ago I was blessed to know love on a level I've never found in this life. The encounter in this life seems to be a marker, some kind of cosmic, and yet ethereal, connection to remind her and I that YES she is there, yes we are still connected, yes love is eternal, and no... no, this life we are not together. The lessons from that are powerful! I would suggest you read my story here and that of Tanguerra and My Friend X. We both have encountered powerful lovers from the past. Perhaps they'll help you see that you are not alone. Past life loves are there... here for us, in wonderful ways! Here is another thread that may interest you, its been asked before.


I would also suggest you explore the twin soul theory. Put the words "twin souls" in the search engine above. It will lead you to many threads about the subject.


So I guess what I would tell you in summation, is that life places people before us that have been with us in past lives. These people are not necessarily meant to interact with us on a soulful level. But, perhaps are meant to teach us things about ourselves. Remember life is a journey of learning! We are here to grow and discover. I recommend you study the principles, perhaps you already have, and then seek the wisdom in the things you learn. It is a wonderful and fulfilling odyssey!!


And last, ask questions here! We're all glad to help you out. Be specific if there is something you don't understand!


Happy Trails!!


Tman
 
please can you explain what does this man have with me???


i am baffled.i was 12 back then when i didn't know him consciously and today i am almost 21 when i know him consciously.


i really need help regarding this.who is he to me??


and if we are not meant to be together why on earth is he with me since i was 12?
 
Welcome to the forum Bubbles. As Tinkerman has so effectively shared, the connections we find in life are real and have many different meanings. Yours, like one of mine, included an extremely powerful draw to a woman I had been with through many other lifetimes. Through research obtained here and with regression and past life meditation, I was able to understand the purpose in that draw to her was to remember what a truly loving relationship felt like so I could locate that again in this lifetime...and not with her. It was as if she was the bait intended to attract me to that feeling...and not to her...our lives were simply not planned to be together in this lifetime.


To me, there is something you are to understand about the connection you have to him, or about your feelings toward him that is intended to help you in this lifetime...but not with him...if it was about him, circumstances would fall into place to enable you to get together.


I wish you luck on your path of discovery.
 
Welcome, bubblestoffeeco - :thumbsup:


I am unclear from your post - have you actually met and spoken to this man in this lifetime? How did you meet? Do you talk to each other or encounter each other on a regular basis?
 
From a very different viewpoint, but from my personal experience, it is possible to have sex without being in the same room, or even the same town. For that to happen he has to focus on it, and he must have been doing that.


When he is on your mind it is also possible that he is doing it as well, almost like a weird sort of psychic vampire or something.


If there is a connection on the soul level it is very possible for many things to occur that normally would not. Only you can decide if it is something that you want.


At this point it reminds me so much of many years of my life. The next time it happens, to see if this is what it is, put up a wall of sorts. Focus on a barrier around you, and on not allowing him access to you and your thoughts and feelings. While you focus breathe out as if to put more energy against it.


If you are able to push it away then you may have a past life connection but he is using it against you instead of for you, trying to reel you in.


Try my suggestion and see what happens. If it works I can PM what worked for me.


If he was a past life connection and he was interested in you for good reasons, why not just walk up to you and say hello? Why not just friend you on facebook?


You said he is attached. Does that mean he is married? If so just walk, no, run away. There is absolutely no future there.


Also, you said he is 11 years older than you. It started when you were 12, so he was 23. NOT acceptable.


Connections from past lives can be amazing. Finding a past love again can be wonderful, but only if it comes from a place of love and light. What you are describing does not sound like that to me. What you are describing scares me a bit ...


Sorry if this is off topic.
 
Welcome to the past life forum!


Tinkerman has already given you the best advice possible. The above links will help you tremendously. To get to the bottom of this connection, I highly recommend going deep within yourself, through regression and meditation, to find answers. You may consider being regressed by a professional as well, sometimes it helps to have someone to guide you. You mention dreams you've had - perhaps you could also start a 'dream journal', which keeps records all dreams that you can remember having. This may seem simple, but it can have a profound effect on your dreams - if you listen they will most definitely help you as well. I believe that is why we dream in the first place - for healing and understanding! :thumbsup:
 
Mama2HRB said:
From a very different viewpoint, but from my personal experience, it is possible to have sex without being in the same room, or even the same town. For that to happen he has to focus on it, and he must have been doing that.
When he is on your mind it is also possible that he is doing it as well, almost like a weird sort of psychic vampire or something.


If there is a connection on the soul level it is very possible for many things to occur that normally would not. Only you can decide if it is something that you want.


At this point it reminds me so much of many years of my life. The next time it happens, to see if this is what it is, put up a wall of sorts. Focus on a barrier around you, and on not allowing him access to you and your thoughts and feelings. While you focus breathe out as if to put more energy against it.


If you are able to push it away then you may have a past life connection but he is using it against you instead of for you, trying to reel you in.


It took me nearly a decade to stop what was happening to me and to realize who he really was. And, it cost me much more than I am willing to admit.


Try my suggestion and see what happens. If it works I can PM what worked for me.


If he was a past life connection and he was interested in you for good reasons, why not just walk up to you and say hello? Why not just friend you on facebook?


You said he is attached. Does that mean he is married? If so just walk, no, run away. There is absolutely no future there.


Also, you said he is 11 years older than you. It started when you were 12, so he was 23. NOT acceptable.


Connections from past lives can be amazing. Finding a past love again can be wonderful, but only if it comes from a place of love and light. What you are describing does not sound like that to me. What you are describing scares me a bit ...


Sorry if this is off topic.
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i dont understand


i mean what does age difference make a connection not acceptable.


and these signs,if we are not meant to be, i wouldn't receive signs directly related to him.


everything happens for a reason


and love and light doe not mean only romantic feelings.


Not every one in normal relationships feels like their other half is their twin soul or soul mate unless you gt real signs.something which you just cannot explain.


we live in separate states.
 
Hi Bubbles, I think what we are saying is that these questions you are asking have no finite answer. There is no certainty in it all. Age? The soul has no age. It only comes to bare in this life when social standards have placed certain expectations on our behavior. If he is your twin soul, and if you are not living a mutual life time together, then perhaps your lesson is to see him, wonder about him, and learn from him. When I say "wonder" about him, I mean that you use him as a catalyst for thought... think about him as a means of understanding your own soul's direction... in this life.


I say again, study the meaning of reincarnation. The journey by which a soul travels time in pursuit of wisdom and understanding... for some eventual resolution and meaning of creation. What that resoulution is we don't know. Actually the only thing we know for certain is that we don't know anything for certain!


I believe that our souls are so tied to other souls that it is inevitable that we reincarnate into many lives together. WHY? That's the big mystery. Personally I've learned that living near, and with in view of, my Twin Soul is a blessing. Yes it is utter torture to have such profound love for another being, yet be unable to acknowledge it or live it. But it has taught me that this life is NOT all there is. It is my own validation of something beyond this single mortal existence. Perhaps, as you are discovering this other person, you too are to see that there is more to life than simply holding hands. I agree with you when you said that we go through life with other people they are not necessarily our "twin soul." In a previous thread I recommended a book:

I recommend is Twin Souls: Finding Your True Spiritual Partner by Maurie Pressman MD and Patricia Joudry. This book offered the most sensible suppositions and hypothesis. They described the qualities and characteristics that they felt identified Twin Souls and went so far as to name Twin Soul couples in history. Part of their theory is that we seek this "other half" in order to learn. And when we encounter them it is not always destined to be beautiful, with showers of flower petals and harp music. No they say we will have very rough, very sad, and very complicated encounters... and once in a while we will spend a life of bliss. Twin Souls ignite each other when they come into contact. The passion is unmistakeable and powerful, and, according to Pressman and Joudry, this is a factor in the identification process. BUT, they go on to say that we will spend life times where we do not encounter our Twin. Why? Well, they say it is all part of the growing process.
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I think you would also find this book interesting. I would also caution not to allow this quandary to drag you down. Accept it as a wonderful mystery in your life. Study it with a maturity and a resolve to use it as a positive force in your life.


No one knows why we run into these precious gifts. We surmise that it is for us to learn and grow. Let it happen. Please continue to ask and seek these answers, especially here. We are with you.


Tman
 
Bubbles, Tman has the most significant understanding of this phenomenon on this board that I am aware of...his experience and research into this area of investigation is remarkable and without doing the research yourself, his answers are as good as you will find, and will provide a great starting point for your own research.


No one will have answers to your questions here...they are your experiences and your opportunities to explore. Only you can find out what these situations mean to and for you. We can only hope to point you in the right direction so you might find something there which helps you obtain some form of significance to your life.
 
I just mean if he was trying to make a romantic connection to you when he was an adult and you were a child it was unacceptable.


By love and light I mean does it come from a good place, a place of love, a place of God (or whatever deity is relevant to your religion)


Only you can know how what is happening can affect you. What I was trying to point out is that I had a very similar experience and nearly a decade later I discovered that it was a soul connection, but the other person was using the connection for his own benefit, not for mine. In other words what I thought was a soul connection based on love and light and past life connections he was using in many ways to control me and to obtain things and money from me.


We did share past lives, and he shared past lives with my oldest daughter. Perhaps this time I was to learn things from him by his being the antagonist. I don't know.


I do not mean this is what happens always, and it may not even be close to what is happening to you. I just want to know that possibility exists and to keep your eyes open.


I agree with usetawaz .... there are many different ideas here, use the ones that help, disregard the ones that do not. Everyone here only aim to help.


Best wishes to you :)
 
i really cannot say anything about past life lovers helping us to grow because i have seen several people on other boards who know that they cannot be with the person they love and thus go on to say that it is there to learn.


no offense


Most of them are normal relationships or normal feelings which gets converted into twin soul.


After a lot of reading and understanding on twin soul theory,its clear that its extremely rare phenomenon,very powerful and it happens for reunions as only those twin souls reunite who have their last birth on earth.


Thus in order to help them reunite,the universe creates such situations or makes them experience such weird happenings that they cannot explain.


Everyone human being learns something from another.the people who go through divorces dont they learn something??
 
The basis of it sounds to me like a psychic attack, as Mama2HRB said, of one flavor or another. Two or three times in my life I felt I was the subject of sexual intrusions - it would be difficult explain to a skeptic how to differentiate them from a dream or fantasy, except to say they were different, very realistic, and came ‘out of the blue’. I had no interest in the people involved (in one case I was a teen and he was older) and have no reason to think any of us shared past lives or were ‘twin flames’ or soul mates or whatever. According to metaphysical theories some people might be able to control it intentionally, in which case it’s considered a form of sexual black magic, or it may just be something that happens while masturbating when a part of their psyche splinters off and goes in search of a bit of OOBE hanky-panky without their conscious knowledge.


I can’t speculate as to the driving force behind the attraction between you and this person or if you’re ‘meant to be together’, but trying to get your attention - or however one might perceive this - while you were still a child by focusing sexually on you doesn’t sound like a direction coming from a higher power, which is why I also would advise caution.
 
Sister Grey said:
The basis of it sounds to me like a psychic attack, as Mama2HRB said, of one flavor or another. Two or three times in my life I felt I was the subject of sexual intrusions - it would be difficult explain to a skeptic how to differentiate them from a dream or fantasy, except to say they were different, very realistic, and came ‘out of the blue’. I had no interest in the people involved (in one case I was a teen and he was older) and have no reason to think any of us shared past lives or were ‘twin flames’ or soul mates or whatever. According to metaphysical theories some people might be able to control it intentionally, in which case it’s considered a form of sexual black magic, or it may just be something that happens while masturbating when a part of their psyche splinters off and goes in search of a bit of OOBE hanky-panky without their conscious knowledge.
I can’t speculate as to the driving force behind the attraction between you and this person or if you’re ‘meant to be together’, but trying to get your attention - or however one might perceive this - while you were still a child by focusing sexually on you doesn’t sound like a direction coming from a higher power, which is why I also would advise caution.
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i am 20 years old and he focused on me a month ago not when i was a child.


and what do you mean?


a vampire?
 
I have also had an experience when I met someone I felt really connected to. Sometimes I doubt if this meeting did bring anything positive in my life. But it is the single reason to why I made many changes both with my relationship, career, view of life and place of residence. It really did affect me that much. I can't say that I'm much better off now than before, but I hope my life is going in the right direction.


I wrote down my story here on the forum many months ago, but even though I felt a strong urge to talk to someone about my experience, I don't think I was ready to post all of it publicly, though I got some answers that I'm incredibly thankful for and still read sometimes.


Weeks are passing when I'm not thinking about my past-life experience, but suddenly it comes up to the surface and this morning I woke up crying from the feeling of longing and hopelessness. It has now been almost two years, and even though I don't think about it that much, at least not consiously (even though I always have it in the back of my mind) I think I'm now more ready to try to understand more and explore my experience.


I have many doubts and not much experience in these subjects. But what I am fairly sure about is that if you meet someone from a past-life you can't miss it. For me the feeling was extremely strong even before I understood what it was. Also many strange coincidences acted in favour of the meetings. Even though I would give anything to meet this person again, I really doubt it will happen but it's only now that I start to realize that. My best comfort in all this is to know that also the other person seemed to realize that something special was going on, and if he ever has similar flashbacks from a past life I think he will remember our meeting and understand.
 
It is extremely sad and hurtful when you discover they are using their knowledge to take from you rather than share with you. In my case he chose to share the deep past lives connection in ways that would allow him to steal from me and try to separate me from one of my daughters. It worked for a very long time, and I only awoke from the "fog" of the relationship when I became ill. I credit that illness with saving my life.


He has had karmic repercussions for his actions, and has probably had more cash stolen from him directly than the value of the items he stole from me.


I grew up in a family where one just does not steal from the other, and where we are all very close. I was an easy target. I was naive. It won't happen again.


He has tried the sexual connection since then but I am able to block him off. It took a long time to get to where I am today, but I am happy to have seen the light of who he really was.


All each of us can do is take life one step at a time. That is what I have been doing.
 
My boyfriend in this lifetime


We were attracted to each other from day one.He loved my red hair. One night I had a past life regression and saw that him and I were servants in a scottish castle.We were laughing while making butter together in the garden behind the castle...and yes I had red hair and surprisingly so did he!He always makes me laugh a lot in this lifetime as well.
 
Hi,


Your boyfriend or your husband? You mentioned you were married in another post.

My boyfriend in this lifetime....
We were attracted to each other from day one.He loved my red hair. One night I had a past life regression and saw that him and I were servants in a scottish castle.We were laughing while making butter together in the garden behind the castle...and yes I had red hair and surprisingly so did he!He always makes me laugh a lot in this lifetime as well.
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