Possible P/L things my daughter has said...

[kimberlyanne27]

I have a (just turned 5) year old daughter, and she has said some things i believe could be p/l related, but some of the things she says and does are kind of disturbing, and i dont know whether are not they are related to a past life or not...
Let me explain...
The other night, we were relaxing and she was watching a movie (care bears, her favorite- i dont let her anything with violence or anything bad, the worst thing she's ever seen is sponge bob or dora or shows like that), and she starts talking about how she misses her friend "Sharity" (i think she must have meant to say "charity?", I asked her if she was a friend from her preschool, and she said no, she was a friend from when she lived in florida (she's lived in ny here her whole life, she's never even been to florida) and that she met her at the snack bar back when she was a big girl and that "sharity" had a baby but that a bad man stabbed her in the stomach and she died. I was really, really upset to hear such disturbing words coming from her...i've heard of little kids talking about other parents and stuff but not lives like this!
sometimes she will be playing with her my little ponies or her bears and she will lay them all down and i will say, are they sleeping, and she'll say, no, they're all dead. I feel really, really, freaked out by this- she has never experienced a relative or anyone dying, but she talks about all this kind of stuff all the time. I dont expose her to all this stuff, and i dont know where she could be getting this from. I had a little trinket box, and she found it in my bedroom and asked if she could have it, and i gave it to her, and she had these little plastic care bears (ava has everything care bear, she's a care bear fanatic...she's got like a million of those little plastic care bears..) and (i get chills even writing about this, and i hope you dont think i am some kind of nut case, because i dont know if this is even the right place to post this) she had one of the little bears laying in the box, and the other ones gathered around it, and i asked her what she was doing, and she said that the bear in the box was dead and the other ones were looking at it!
sometimes she would have two of the little bears spaced a little ways apart and propping up a bear and say they were helping a bear to the hospital...i dont know where she gets this stuff...i dont know if she is getting this from a past life or if she is disturbed, but this has been going on for over a year, has anyone here heard of anything like this before?
i hope this is the right place to post this. I have been reading this board for a long time, this is a really great site.

 

[deborah]

Welcome to the forum Kim,

Yes - this is the right place to ask. Children can be our greatest teachers. Children remember past lives in various ways -some through play metaphors - like your daughters Care Bear story. Death is a difficult subject to brouch with children. Make sure you document what she says and does for future reference. Journals are invaluable.

Have you read the Four Signs of Childrens Past Lives? There are several things you can do to help both her and you understand what she is experiencing. Drawing pictures helps them tell their story. Talking about dreams and dreaming also can be helpful. Do the dreams and the childs play match or do you see continuity in the recall?

I hope this helps. It's late here - I'll check back in the morning.

 

[Ailish]

Hi kimberlyanne,

Welcome to the forum.

I think it's important to remember -- that kids pick up a lot of things from their peers -- especially friends with older siblings and even the most vigilant parent isn't always aware of exactly what their kids are exposed to a hundred percent of the time.

In my experience -- kids try to work through and gain a better understanding of life situations by sometimes acting them out. It is not necessarily a bad thing

You are the best judge of your daughter's behavior. How does she seem when she plays? Is she aggravated or upset? Or does she play calmly?

You may want to look through the following threads to help you determine if what Ava's experiencing could be past life related:

The Four Signs of Children's Past Life Memory

How can you tell the difference between a child's fantasy and a true past life?

Have you tried talking to her when she mentions "Sharity?" The link How do I talk with my child when she talks about her Past Life? may help you in knowing how to talk to your daughter when she mentions "Sharity" or starts playing games that make you uncomfortable.

There are also activities you can do with her -- such as drawing pictures of Sharity (when she mentions it) and ask her to tell you about it. Be involved -- make it seem like a game and keep it fun for her.

Also -- have you documented her talking about Sharity -- and the games she plays? If not -- I would recommend starting a journal. It can come in handy

Good luck, and keep us posted!

Ailish

 

[Kay]

Hello kimberlyanne27 and welcome to the forum. I think it is great that you are listening to your daughter and considering the possibility of her talking about a pastlife.

Kind Regards
Kay

 

[Karoliina]

Hello Kim and welcome!

It sounds possible Ava is remembering a past life. Others have given you already some great advice and useful links.

I don't mean to belittle your feelings about her way to play with the Care Bears, but it doesn't sound very bad to me. Like Ailish said, I think she could be just "playing away" a difficult topic she's heard about in this life or remembers from a previous one. Of course if she seems anxious when playing or talking about death, then you could try to talk to her and explain that death is nothing horrible - just going to another place.

All the best for you and Ava - and keep us posted!

Karoliina

 

[McDebra]

I just wanted to add my "Welcome"! Keep listening and please keep us updated!