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Shared memory - Mother and Child

ssbjill

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I don’t know how to explain this whole event! Has anyone else dreamed about their child’s past life, and then had the child verify it? The dream was extremely vivid and emotionally powerful. I still, two years later, can’t explain the dream with out crying.

Here’s what happened:

I have five children, the oldest is now 16, and I have listened to all of them relate past life experiences to me. My youngest though, from the moment she was born, has shown signs of past life trauma in the form of extreme, unexplainable separation anxiety.

We struggled through her infancy, which was extremely difficult. She literally would not allow me to leave the room without becoming hysterical. Another manifestation of her anxiety was her refusal to verbalize. She could hear and she understood, she even created her own very sophisticated sign language, she just wouldn’t talk. No cooing, no babbling, nothing.

Each step has been a struggle with Jasmin. She has finally, by the age of three, began to realize a small measure of independence. I went back to work when she was two, and although she has been going to daycare now for more than a year, she still clings to me every morning until I promise that I will come back for her.

A couple weeks ago I took my kids to the beach about 250 miles from home. We stayed in whats called a Yurt, a round, canvas and lattice, permanent tent-like structure at one of the State Parks. I say tent-like, because it was more like a cabin inside, with a kitchen, bathroom, electricity, beds, etc. Very neat place, but from the moment we got there Jasmin started to insist that she wanted to go home. By the time it was growing dark she was near hysteria and I knew that if I didn’t find some way to soothe her I would be forced to pack up and drive the 4 hours home so as not to disturb the other campers.

Sitting by the campfire I pulled her into my arms, hugged her close and asked her if she was afraid. She immediately said yes. I asked her what she was afraid of, and this stumped her for a moment. Finally she said, “Lost”, a new word for her, and then “Me Lost. Mama lost.” I was stunned. Talking is a real struggle for Jasmin, but you could tell that she very much wanted me to understand her. The words just spilled from her as I questioned her.

When I told her I was not lost, she clearly said, “Not You. Mama Lost”. She repeated this over and over. I reminded her that I was not lost, and that she was not lost, and that I would not leave her or lose her. She was still very agitated, so I asked her what happened. She said, that she was lost, and mama was lost, and then pantomimed drinking, and eating, and then finally blurted out, “Me died.” Where, was the first question that popped to my mind, and when I asked her, she pointed over to the porch of the “yurt” and said “There.”

The hair stood straight up on my neck when I looked over to where she was pointing. It reminded me instantly of an extremely vivid dream I had when she was about a year old. In this dream I am in Africa and I see a mother carrying her son. He is about two or three, and I knew instantly that this was my Jasmin. There is a drought and famine, both are very sick and dehydrated. They are on their way to where they have been told they can get food and water. The woman’s husband and other children have already died, and she knows her only hope is to find help. She has been walking, carrying her son, for several days. She knows she is getting too weak to walk much farther, and hopes that they will reach help this day. Near the end of the day she comes to a fork in the road and meets a man there. He tells her that help is still about a half day walk down the right fork in the road, but she won’t reach it that day. He tells her that if she takes the left fork in the road she will come to a village after about 2 miles. In that village there is a church where she might find shelter for the night.

The woman goes down the left path and comes to the village and the church, but it is deserted. Knowing she can’t go any farther this night, she lays her son on the porch of the church and goes in search of water. I don’t know what happened to her, but she never returned, and her son, too sick and dehydrated to get up, died sometime the next afternoon.

When I glanced over my shoulder to see where Jasmin was pointing, the image of the church flashed clearly in my mind. Up until that point I had not seen a connection, but the buildings did look very similar. I remembered the dream, and it still makes me cry every time I try to explain it to someone, but at that moment I knew that it was more than a dream, and Jasmin was still afraid.

I told Jasmin that it was okay. I promised her that I would not leave her, and that she never had to worry about losing me. She was immediately relieved and fell peacefully asleep.

This event marked a major breakthrough for Jasmin. Finally able to voice her fears and get reassurance, she is less clingy and more independent and her vocabulary is exploding with new words everyday.
 
Welcome to the forum ssbjill

Your experience with your daughter brought tears to my eyes and chills down my spine. Thank you so much for sharing it. The honesty of how small children express their memories, - and especially trauma really does show us-- the heart of the matter.

I have experienced similar things with my own children, for which I am very grateful.
The following link is to thread I started some time ago - I hope you enjoy reading it. I also hope you continue to share your daughters experiences and your own.

Soul Moments

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Deborah

Finding my joy
 
I am so happy that you were trusting your intuition, and able to make such a powerful connection with your daughter. Hearing this story made me feel a sense of hope and tranquility because it met my need for honor. Her past was honored, connected to her fears, and linked to her need for reassurance. How nice to see an immeadiate change in her development too.

For my daughter, the changes comes and then goes, two steps forward, one step back. She improves, and I think, that's it, it's done. Then later another chapter in the story comes up. And we work through that. Sometimes we get pleasant chapters, like when she missed eating watermelon ice, and I found some and we enjoyed eating it together. It has been a wonderful journey to share.

Marg
 
An extremely interesting experience. Although this is an older thread - I thought members might enjoy reading it.
 
This story gave me chills, children are just so precious and to think of how hard she worked to share this with her mom is just a testament to our soul's strength and perseverance.


I would love to hear an update!
 
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