I've never given too much thought to what happens when someone has no beliefs, no religion, no higher education, no background or experiences and then dies a sudden horrible death. Except to maybe be drawn to their next life. Hang around loved ones for years. But can they be scared? Lost? Confused? I imagined so but had never seen it.
My son has been living with a friend for the past three months. Daniel (my son) was helping another friend with his truck. Brett (the friend he was living with) wanted to come over and hang out. So he jumped on his bicycle and started over Dan's way. I didn't know until the morning, but Daniel texted me his friend Brett had been hit by a car and killed that night. The driver didn't see him. Even worse the first hit didn't kill him, he tried to get up when the second, third, fourth - up to nine other cars ran him over. They said there were body parts everywhere. It was a tragic horrible death.
Brett's mom is so sweet, I feel terrible for her; she has two grown girls, and Brett was 42. BUT what a horrible thing to have happen. We all cried. This was last Monday evening. Tuesday night I was in bed watching TV when suddenly Brett was standing in my bedroom doorway. He seemed lost, didn't know what to do, where to go, or even that he was dead. We don't really know each other, met him briefly three times.
Tic-Toc.....When I told my son he seemed lost he turned around and said - "was he Tic Tocking?" Of course I said.... WHAT? What does that mean. "Swaying back and forth side to side like a clock pendulum." Well....YES! He was! That was what gave me the inclination he was lost - confused not sure where to go but I hadn't told Danny that. Until he asked. He said "That's what he does when he's confused and doesn't know what to do - he tic tocs......"
It was a validation for me, but it also confirmed I need to do something for Brett. SO this week I will do a meditation and hold his hand. Talk to him through the heart center and HOPE...he can move on. Sometimes it's the smallest of things that are the biggest validations. Most of all.....they come when there is a need. So if anyone is inclined - his funeral is Feb 24th....please pray for him to move on and find peace.
My son has been living with a friend for the past three months. Daniel (my son) was helping another friend with his truck. Brett (the friend he was living with) wanted to come over and hang out. So he jumped on his bicycle and started over Dan's way. I didn't know until the morning, but Daniel texted me his friend Brett had been hit by a car and killed that night. The driver didn't see him. Even worse the first hit didn't kill him, he tried to get up when the second, third, fourth - up to nine other cars ran him over. They said there were body parts everywhere. It was a tragic horrible death.
Brett's mom is so sweet, I feel terrible for her; she has two grown girls, and Brett was 42. BUT what a horrible thing to have happen. We all cried. This was last Monday evening. Tuesday night I was in bed watching TV when suddenly Brett was standing in my bedroom doorway. He seemed lost, didn't know what to do, where to go, or even that he was dead. We don't really know each other, met him briefly three times.
Tic-Toc.....When I told my son he seemed lost he turned around and said - "was he Tic Tocking?" Of course I said.... WHAT? What does that mean. "Swaying back and forth side to side like a clock pendulum." Well....YES! He was! That was what gave me the inclination he was lost - confused not sure where to go but I hadn't told Danny that. Until he asked. He said "That's what he does when he's confused and doesn't know what to do - he tic tocs......"
It was a validation for me, but it also confirmed I need to do something for Brett. SO this week I will do a meditation and hold his hand. Talk to him through the heart center and HOPE...he can move on. Sometimes it's the smallest of things that are the biggest validations. Most of all.....they come when there is a need. So if anyone is inclined - his funeral is Feb 24th....please pray for him to move on and find peace.
Thats horrible! SO so sorry for all those involved.