Hi fellow members of the forum,
Yesterday I closed this thread for a while because I didn't want the discussion(s) to get out of hand. Today, I cleaned the thread and it is now reopened but I would like to say a few words about thoughtfulness regarding new members of the forum.
Yesterday, a brand new member made his OpeningPost about two essential questions in his mind. I think it is just basic decency to greet a new member, show interest in their story and their questions, and encourage them to open up about their past life experiences.
I don't think it's appropriate to use this time and space to start questioning the work of moderators (I handled/answered that question in another section of the forum) neither the occasion to fight about other themes than the ones presented by the OP (original poster). Remember, you're in the very first thread of a new member. Discussions are ok but give a new member some time to present themselves and time to adjust to the forum.
Yes, we are a discussion forum. When discussing matters, it is highly important that we all have access to the same information. So, when we give a link to someone else's work, this is not 'preaching' by the forum member but
giving access to the
source material, a highly scientific custom
Preaching is telling others their personal opinions as facts, not in dispute.
And I would like to add to the above-mentioned importance of mutual accessibility of information... hinting, talking half of the stories, using multiple interpretable concepts, or simply stating not to tell things are not strategies that we encourage in this forum. These are not the tools of open discussions (what we do favor).
And last,
words do matter. When you would tell me I am a strict b*** as a moderator*, I will own my own actions, my own words. I will not start an argument that I am such a cutie with my children, or that I am so absolutely soft regarding disciplining my pets, and so on. No, the words I use on the forum count for their own, regardless of my background or spiritual evolvement. So when someone lectures a personal truth, it's still preaching, even if they didn't realize it could be experienced that way by others.
* happens once in a while
After having said all of these, we will continue with OP's thread. Reactions to this post in this thread will be removed. You could consider if this thread is appropriate for a follow-up question. Complaints can be directed in a PM to me or to @Tinkerman.