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What do you think of his behaviour, will he accrue karma

Dummy777

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My father at 67 has been complaining, moaning, arguing for three years and eight months and anger

He says shouting is his style

-He has his mortgage paid off
-He has two major bank account savings
-He has assets and resources
-He gets government pension all life

-He gets two private pensions
-He gets money from me every week

He saves £400 per week and I pay half for the bills

I've paid him £13k in three years

He has child benefit payments

-And three compensation payments in the last eight years

He's given me no trust fund

He has his daughter married off, achievements, success, every met need

Ive done so much for him in the past, chores, this, that, do this, chase that, take him to places

He complains about the money before I never gave him

He just complains and moans about money

Doesn't he realise how much I've done for him in the past, now and future

He was brutal before

He doesn't listen

He says I never gave him bill money before 30 and he doesn't say this to my sister

What do you think of his behaviour? It's incredible, very dangerous, shouting and shouting when people can hear humiliating me, he gives my power away

It's hurtful and I know someone would've taken their own life

He might be causing catastrophic events to happen to him and me

He's almost robbing me of a life and for sure he has no sympathy and compassion for others and other parents in difficult situations or pensioners

He is wealthy as a pensioner for goodness sake

What do you think of his overall behaviour, I can't and others can't believe of silly, stupid man he is, I know he's my father, he's definitely a hypocrite and outright cruel
 
As I see this, because you asked:

I think that, in your terms, you're accumulating negative karma from your negative feelings, thoughts, images you focus on now. If you want to feel better, focus on the positive in your current, past and future. Your emotions attract into your reality situations that will generate similar emotions, that amplify more and more.

Resentment, anger, hate, fear will bring more of that untill you break the loop.

You should wish to change your perception about your father, which isn't the same as wishing for your father to change. If you can't, and it seems that you can't at this stage, then move on with your life, mentally and physically.

Nobody owes you anything.

I'm sorry that what I keep writing to you doesn't resonate with you. I know that only you can find your path. Maybe it isn't like mine. Anyway, I meant well, but I feel that I should refrain from replying from now on.
 
My father at 67 has been complaining, moaning, arguing for three years and eight months and anger

He says shouting is his style

-He has his mortgage paid off
-He has two major bank account savings
-He has assets and resources
-He gets government pension all life

-He gets two private pensions
-He gets money from me every week

He saves £400 per week and I pay half for the bills

I've paid him £13k in three years

He has child benefit payments

-And three compensation payments in the last eight years

He's given me no trust fund

He has his daughter married off, achievements, success, every met need

Ive done so much for him in the past, chores, this, that, do this, chase that, take him to places

He complains about the money before I never gave him

He just complains and moans about money

Doesn't he realise how much I've done for him in the past, now and future

He was brutal before

He doesn't listen

He says I never gave him bill money before 30 and he doesn't say this to my sister

What do you think of his behaviour? It's incredible, very dangerous, shouting and shouting when people can hear humiliating me, he gives my power away

It's hurtful and I know someone would've taken their own life

He might be causing catastrophic events to happen to him and me

He's almost robbing me of a life and for sure he has no sympathy and compassion for others and other parents in difficult situations or pensioners

He is wealthy as a pensioner for goodness sake

What do you think of his overall behaviour, I can't and others can't believe of silly, stupid man he is, I know he's my father, he's definitely a hypocrite and outright cruel

What do I think of his actions? Not much, actually. *shrug*
Being in their late 60s doesn’t make someone wise, 100% in control of their emotions, or any less “stupid” or “silly”. Neither do any of the financial examples you gave above. Would his behavior be more acceptable to you if he was 20? If he was broke?
Resentment, anger, hate, fear will bring more of that untill you break the loop.

You should wish to change your perception about your father, which isn't the same as wishing for your father to change. If you can't, and it seems that you can't at this stage, then move on with your life, mentally and physically.

Nobody owes you anything.
Exactly. Well put, @baro-san.
His behavior is his. Don’t stay tangled up in it…unless you want to be.
 
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