What to do?

[JC]

My son (now almost 6) has talked of past lives since he could talk. He also has seen spirits in our house (that the cat is also responding to), and "heard" things in his head (enough to ask if I also heard it). He began having trouble with a teacher who yelled - I think it was something in her tone that scared him - so we changed classes and started seeing a counselor. He says that he didn't tell the counselor about his other families, but then told me that he had made it all up. Now he's not saying that he made it all up, but he's definitely holding it in and I think that it's eating at him. What to do?! There is a therapist near us who has trained with the Roger Wolger method of regression. Would this be too intense to do? We have alot of recurring statements/themes, about not being heard or understood -- which also came up in "memories" that he sobbed over. Lately we've been getting "why don't you love me" and "no one will help me" or times that he feels sad but won't talk about it. Would seeing the therapist who's familiar with past lives (and had memories of them as a child) help? Or are we better off not talking about this? He said that what bothers him is the "weirdness" around him that follows him, and I think it's the memories or psychic energies he's feeling. If we let this go, will he outgrow it or forget? I'm afraid that the regression would be too intense. Has anyone done this with their child or come up with ideas?

 

[mysticalmoon]

I think i know what he is going through, i am a 16yr old teen who sees and converses with spirets. and alot of the time i feel confused and different and that no one understands.
What i think you should do is talk to him about his memories in private. Make him feel comfortable about his memories and talking to you about it. Have him draw pictures of things from his other life. If you write notes then when he is old enough have him keep a journal type idea to write down his memories. This will help him remember and learn from his experiences before.
If you want when you think that he is ready you can send him to the therepist. but first he needs to be comfortable with openly talking about it.
Make sure to let him know that he is not the only one that there are others that share his gifts and that he doesn't need to fear them.
I know that if my mother or father had done that for me i would feel way more comfortable with my situation now.
But start slow and get him to talk about it in small parts like maybe five minutes every two days or so. that way he knows that you are there and he will eventually grow to understand his gift.
To answer your question about if he will grow out of it.I believe that if he starts blocking it out then he will and then that will be lost to him until the next time around (his next life.
But in my opinion you should let him learn with it you never know it might be beneficial to him in the long run
i hope that i helped.

 

[deborah]

Hi JC,

I am away from home - several states away, and have to be quick. I have several thoughts for you that might help your son.
First read my post on "entities in the house"..that might help if he is experiencing this type of contact.

Not talking about it -- will not help him. Keep the lines of communication open.

I have to go their closing the computer lab

More tomorrow



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Love,
Deborah

Lifes experiences weave a tapestry of knowledge

 

[kate]

Hi JC
Glad you found this forum.
Let me reinforce that NOT talking about this with your son is not a good thing. I think most small children find that MOM is the only person they can truly open up to.
Keeping a journal is also a very good thing to do, evan if it's only a. few words now and then.
My son also expressed that "Well, I just made it up" phase, but I think that was related to some ridicule from his two older siblings.
Have you asked him if there is some "thing", way, being etc. that he can imagine that would help him when he feels the situation is "wierd"? I ask my children to call upon the appropriate angel when they need help ( okay, okay - they look at me as if I just walked off the set of a horror movie, but I plant the seed).
Always know that you are his first defence against that which he is finding overwhelming and your love and support for him will be intricate in the outcome.
Let us know how things are progressing. You have a very sensitive and special child in your care.
Sent with Love. Kate.

 

[JC]

Thanks to all for your answers. My son now seems to be more comfortable with the idea or past lives again and is talking with me about it. He has even mentioned talking to someone who would be able to help him understand the "weirdness" (his word, not mine) around him. He had been seeing a counselor for non-related (school/chanign classes) issues and it was when he saw her that he said he'd made up his other families. Funny, we stopped seeing her and he's okay with it again, although he did want to talk to her again about this. She comes across to me completely as a non-believer. So who do I have him talk to? Regressionist, psychic, none of the above?

Thanks to everyone for reinforcing my belief that I shouldn't NOT talk about it. I've told him that he can always tell me, that I will listen to whatever he sees or remembers even though I may not always see it too.

 

[Bob]

Hi JC,

I have a few suggestions for you.

First, I believe the most important person for him to talk with is you (and other family members he already trusts). So, the more you can open up yourself to what he is experiencing, to more you can learn to attune to past lives and spirit realm, the easier it will be for both of you. I see having a child who is open to spirit realm as an extraordinary opportunity for spiritual growth for the entire family.

Second, please visit the following website about psychic kids spiritual experiences. http://www.psykids.net/
You will find helpful resources there, and a message board where you can ask your questions and probably get answers from other parents in similar situations.

Third, you asked about seeing a psychic. Since the word "psychic" is bandied about in so many ways these days, I wouldn't advise you to go that route unless you can find someone who is good with kids. What I do advise you to do is find a person or persons who are good with kids and who are openminded and openhearted about spiritual experiences and psychic abilities. It could be a teacher, counselor, friend, etc. For example, there are many progressive alternative schools which have open minded and openhearted teachers.

Fourth, we could do a session together. I could easily attune to your son through you (I have done a number of sessions like this lately), and gain insight as to what he is perceiving and get guidance for both of you.

Blessings,

Bob


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[mysticalmoon]

I agree with all the suggestions that everyone else has made. but i feel that on the topic of how he closed up and denied it all when he was going to see the counseller was that he was either told that it was just his imagination or he felt that she would think of him as weird and try to exclude him from his friends. Some people need to understand that just because you don't believe in something that doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.
but from my experiences some people may appear to believe but in reality don't and when a child realizes this they may choose to close up and pretend that it isn't real. I did that for a while. I realized that my mom listened but didn't take me seriously and so i closed up and refused to talk about it.
In the end i grew spiretually and learned that it didn't matter wether my mom believed in me but that i believed in me. since then i have started to find myself in all senses.
But finding this forum has been such a great help.
sorry for rambling a little off topic.
but i think that it is on a related topic any how i gotta go

talk to you people soon.


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Mystical Moon