My own studies on gender, sexuality and social conditioning have led me to the conclusion that although the body is usually sexed male or female, and gender-roles are conditioned into us, the soul has no gender.
What I've found interesting is our perceptions filtering what we see through 'male' and 'female'. In years of using a gender-neutral moniker on various forums, I have noticed that when people don't know my physical sex, they invariably assume I'm male, and when I was on two nearly identical forums related to a particular sector of the IT industry (one where it was known that I am female in sex, the other where it was assumed I was male), and made the same post to both forums as both had the same topic under discussion. I did this as an experiment, as well. I'd noticed differences in how my posts were received on both forums, and I used an identical post as a control.
The post was my getting up on my electronic soapbox and making a speech, basically, on the need to clean up our industry and form a trade association, something I believed in quite strongly-still do. The post to the forum where they knew I was of the female sex, was received with scorn, and (from the comments made) was seen as emotional ranting and bitching. The post to the forum where it was assumed I was of the male sex, received kudos for the reasoned logic of it's rhetoric.
Although social conditioning and societal expectations for people sexed as female and male can and do often lead to certain behaviors online as part of their sex-related "gender roles", I would not interpret these as indicating the gender of a particular soul. Sex and gender are two very different things-one physical (simply how the plumbing is configured) and the other mental (deeply rooted in identity).
If you look at this from a more metaphysical perspective, would you say then that the sex of the body controls the gender of the soul? Would you put something so infinite and amorphous as a soul into a box labeled either male or female?
Just a few things to ponder...consider them bitchy ranting or reasoned rhetoric as you wish...