Hello,
I only recently found this site. I am hoping someone can give me some input on how to help my son. I am currently reading Carol's book about Children's past lives, my mother bought it for me and my husband, and herself to read. Thank God.
Since my son could talk, he has told about a "when I worked on the ship". He was always very excited about palm trees and ships-? (we live in PA). At the age of two he often spoke of "working on the pipes on the boat" - while in the bathtub. Over time, he spoke of being in the Navy, "the 'old' Navy, not when Dad was in" (his dad was in the Navy- did NOT work on pipes, and was stationed in the Mediterranean - not the Pacific). He has given us detailed accounts of a ship...the colors it was painted the colors of tile, etc.
Over time, he has told me, my husband, my father, my mother, OVER and over again about how he was in the Navy, he was in Hawaii, a spider bit his wrist but he was ok, He went to China, and then he was in a small boat outside the ship and a shark came out of nowhere and bit him up and he was so surprised by that and he wasn't sure, but he thinks the mom of his kids was already "died" and he hopes his kids got a new mom and dad. He says "then I went to heaven, and it is very, very beautiful and then I got shrinked little and came into your belly and here I am!".
I've never disagreed with him and I've never probed, or asked questions. I do believe in reincarnation so I just took it all in stride and thought it was interesting and that someday when he didn't remember anymore, and was grown, it would interesting to see what he said when we told him his memories. My husband, on the other hand, had been very sure that past life beliefs were nonsense - until now. Now he is certain that our son is remembering and having emotional/spiritual issues because of his past life.
At 16 months, my son had double hernia surgery. He is now, at almost 5 years old, in play therapy because he is suffering from severe anxiety. In the first 2 sessions of play therapy he was acting out his surgery. He had a hospitalization last year that just sent him over the edge emotionally, and we could not figure out what was going on. He flat out told us to "never, ever talk about the hospital." So we knew something was wrong. He was playing out his hernia surgery with me recently and got out a toy saw from his toy tool box and was 'sawing' at my abdomen. When I commented that they don't do that for hernia surgery he commented, "oh yeah? Well that's how it feels when a shark bites your belly! THAT I know."
His anxiety is causing such behavior issues that we need to have him assessed for the usual stuff when kids aren't quite "normal" before he starts school in the fall...autism spectrum, ADD, OCD, SPD etc. Each new specialist he sees says he just doesn't quite fit into any of those categories, and they aren't sure what is going on. My son never talks about his "before I came here" story to the shrinks, oddly enough.
I finally told the play therapist that he talks daily about his previous life which ended in a shark attack when she asked me what I think the shark puppet that he plays with frequently at therapy could represent. I don't think she expected that to be my response! She asked me if we were buddhist (we aren't) or were we raising him 'traditional Christian". I told her that is irrelevant, and I'm not going to teach him that his reality is incorrect, when as far as I know, it very well could be correct. And I think she has now written us off as new age weirdos. I can just imagine her report to the school.
Until the last hospitalization...my son was completely normal at every well baby/child check up and advanced in his verbal skills and development. The school district early intervention team even gave him 'on track" or "above average" for every single developmental assessment - just 3 months ago.
He started having almost daily, even multiple times per day (nap time and more than once overnight) sleep terrors not long after his hernia surgery. He still has them on occasion and frequently has bad dreams that he will not discuss and calls for me or his dad in the middle of the night probably 4 times per week, at least. Every professional who sees him says his anxiety is high, but can't quite figure out why. I took him to a Traditional Chinese Medicine doctor (acutally 2 of them in the same practice), and he opened right up to them about his past life (he seems to intuitively know who he can talk to and who he can't - not all the time, but most of the time.) After hearing him talk, they said his soul is not settled here and they did an acupuncture treatment to help with emotional trauma. He agreed to the treatment because he wanted to stop "fretting about things", and had seen me get acupuncture before and knew it wouldn't be painful. It has helped some, but I don't want him to have to continue with needles - he's not totally comfortable with it.
How can we help him come to terms with all this? My husband - the skeptic- is adamant that our son's issues stem from the past life stuff, and that we can't resolve anything going on now, until THAT is first addressed. I always believed my son when he talked about his past life, but until I started reading Carol's book, it never dawned on me that his past life could be affecting him, emotionally, in this life. Cell memory I understood, but not the psychological aspect. So - now I see that we have to do something to help him. Can somebody please tell me WHAT do we DO?
Thank you for taking the time to read this and any input you may have.
Lisa
I only recently found this site. I am hoping someone can give me some input on how to help my son. I am currently reading Carol's book about Children's past lives, my mother bought it for me and my husband, and herself to read. Thank God.
Since my son could talk, he has told about a "when I worked on the ship". He was always very excited about palm trees and ships-? (we live in PA). At the age of two he often spoke of "working on the pipes on the boat" - while in the bathtub. Over time, he spoke of being in the Navy, "the 'old' Navy, not when Dad was in" (his dad was in the Navy- did NOT work on pipes, and was stationed in the Mediterranean - not the Pacific). He has given us detailed accounts of a ship...the colors it was painted the colors of tile, etc.
Over time, he has told me, my husband, my father, my mother, OVER and over again about how he was in the Navy, he was in Hawaii, a spider bit his wrist but he was ok, He went to China, and then he was in a small boat outside the ship and a shark came out of nowhere and bit him up and he was so surprised by that and he wasn't sure, but he thinks the mom of his kids was already "died" and he hopes his kids got a new mom and dad. He says "then I went to heaven, and it is very, very beautiful and then I got shrinked little and came into your belly and here I am!".
I've never disagreed with him and I've never probed, or asked questions. I do believe in reincarnation so I just took it all in stride and thought it was interesting and that someday when he didn't remember anymore, and was grown, it would interesting to see what he said when we told him his memories. My husband, on the other hand, had been very sure that past life beliefs were nonsense - until now. Now he is certain that our son is remembering and having emotional/spiritual issues because of his past life.
At 16 months, my son had double hernia surgery. He is now, at almost 5 years old, in play therapy because he is suffering from severe anxiety. In the first 2 sessions of play therapy he was acting out his surgery. He had a hospitalization last year that just sent him over the edge emotionally, and we could not figure out what was going on. He flat out told us to "never, ever talk about the hospital." So we knew something was wrong. He was playing out his hernia surgery with me recently and got out a toy saw from his toy tool box and was 'sawing' at my abdomen. When I commented that they don't do that for hernia surgery he commented, "oh yeah? Well that's how it feels when a shark bites your belly! THAT I know."
His anxiety is causing such behavior issues that we need to have him assessed for the usual stuff when kids aren't quite "normal" before he starts school in the fall...autism spectrum, ADD, OCD, SPD etc. Each new specialist he sees says he just doesn't quite fit into any of those categories, and they aren't sure what is going on. My son never talks about his "before I came here" story to the shrinks, oddly enough.
I finally told the play therapist that he talks daily about his previous life which ended in a shark attack when she asked me what I think the shark puppet that he plays with frequently at therapy could represent. I don't think she expected that to be my response! She asked me if we were buddhist (we aren't) or were we raising him 'traditional Christian". I told her that is irrelevant, and I'm not going to teach him that his reality is incorrect, when as far as I know, it very well could be correct. And I think she has now written us off as new age weirdos. I can just imagine her report to the school.
Until the last hospitalization...my son was completely normal at every well baby/child check up and advanced in his verbal skills and development. The school district early intervention team even gave him 'on track" or "above average" for every single developmental assessment - just 3 months ago.
He started having almost daily, even multiple times per day (nap time and more than once overnight) sleep terrors not long after his hernia surgery. He still has them on occasion and frequently has bad dreams that he will not discuss and calls for me or his dad in the middle of the night probably 4 times per week, at least. Every professional who sees him says his anxiety is high, but can't quite figure out why. I took him to a Traditional Chinese Medicine doctor (acutally 2 of them in the same practice), and he opened right up to them about his past life (he seems to intuitively know who he can talk to and who he can't - not all the time, but most of the time.) After hearing him talk, they said his soul is not settled here and they did an acupuncture treatment to help with emotional trauma. He agreed to the treatment because he wanted to stop "fretting about things", and had seen me get acupuncture before and knew it wouldn't be painful. It has helped some, but I don't want him to have to continue with needles - he's not totally comfortable with it.
How can we help him come to terms with all this? My husband - the skeptic- is adamant that our son's issues stem from the past life stuff, and that we can't resolve anything going on now, until THAT is first addressed. I always believed my son when he talked about his past life, but until I started reading Carol's book, it never dawned on me that his past life could be affecting him, emotionally, in this life. Cell memory I understood, but not the psychological aspect. So - now I see that we have to do something to help him. Can somebody please tell me WHAT do we DO?
Thank you for taking the time to read this and any input you may have.
Lisa