Blueheart/Totoro,
Your initial experiences sound a lot like mine. I can stay more objective at this point, but only because that is, well, what I am doing about the whole phenomenon. There’s something associated with that face that, if I let it, seems to want to drag me into some extreme emotions or something else I don’t want to face at this point (and maybe not in this life). I think there are some other female lives before and possibly one after that one which led me to the point of foreswearing ever being female again the same way that Deborah foreswore ever being male again and John Tat foreswore ever believing in God again. So, at this point, after having had the matter force itself into my consciousness in a variety of ways, I am content to maintain a bit of therapeutic amnesia. (Actually, avoiding remembering can sometimes be as difficult as remembering).
I believe PastPilot asked how you recognize a prior life image of yourself that is of the opposite sex. Well, to begin with, there is that shock of intuition or “knowing” that doesn’t have much to do with appearance. But after that, I saw in her face a very clear image of, and resemblance to, myself as a young child. It was as if one put together several pictures of my younger self, blurred them together, and then ran them forward along a program towards feminine rather than masculine adulthood. Male and female faces look the most like each other as infants and usually diverge more and more through childhood. This process speeds up and they begin to diverge the most radically in appearance beginning in puberty. My face is very different from hers now not only due to age, but due to the fact that as a male I have a more elongated face and more prominent jaw line and bone structure, etc.—all typical in male development patterns. But, I could still look at her and see the resemblance. I.e., the face could easily be the face of my female paternal twin.
Also, it definitely appears that some type of carry-over from past lives impacts our future physical appearance—else why the carry-over of scars noted by Stevenson. Genetics would also play a role, as would a bio-field of some sort as postulated by Stevenson, but I also wonder about a further factor: the impact of our pre-birth choices. According to Newton, we get to view our future possible selves and see what we will look like as each one prior to making a choice for incarnation. Could it be that most of us tend to also choose the one with an appearance close to our “preferred” or habitual appearance? We may just like to look a certain way and choose accordingly. So, we would be choosing the genetic and “biofield” (or whatever) combination that ended up looking the most like what we “like” to look like. This doesn’t mean that other factors would not enter into the choice, and we might choose to look less like ourselves in order to accomplish some other goal—I just think this could also be a factor in terms of the continuity of appearance.
Cordially,
S&S
PS—The last point might also help explain why we sometimes don’t “resemble” PL selves.