Hi Victoria, welcome to the forum
First of all, I'm sorry that you lost your family at such a young age, and the way I read your question suggests that this has some bearing on why you no longer believe in reincarnation. I don't know how much you know about how it all works, I guess none of us know for definate, but some new members join the forum with a fairly good understanding, while others are completely new to the concept, so please don't think that I'm trying to patronize you in any way.
Maybe you could elaborate a bit more for us, I assume that you believe that life goes on after death in another reality, or dimension, or Heaven, however you choose to define it, therefore leaving no reason to reincarnate?
Many 'skeptics' in my experience, seem to think that believers in reincarnation are so terrified of death being the end of everything that we know, that we need some sort of 'belief' to cling on to in order to deny the inevitable. This is clearly not the case, certainly not for me anyway, and I'm sure everybody else who have their own past life experiences will agree. For me, it's not about 'believing', it just is, I never made a choice to believe in reincarnation, it was just something that has always been present in my life for as far back as I can remember, even before I'd ever heard the word 'reincarnation', or what that word meant.
Again, I don't know you, or the details of your beliefs, but my opinion on us only having one shot at life, and to be judged on that one life, just doesn't make any sense to me at all. If there is a God, then why would he give one person an easy, priveleged life where they never have to want or struggle for anything, while giving another person a life full of difficulty, ill health and poverty? And if he can send our souls down to Earth to live one physical life, then why can't he send us down to do it again, and again, until we've each seen life from every angle? That makes far more sense to me.
Remember also, time has no meaning on the other side, so a hundred lives here on Earth could pass in an instant on the other side. Your family are still in that 'in between' stage where 50 years could pass here on Earth before they decide to come back in their next life, where from their perspective, they've only just arrived there.
In my opinion, I can't understand how anyone can believe in an afterlife yet dismiss the concept of reincarnation. It's like seeing the big picture, yet only believing that half of it is there. But at the end of the day, like everyone else has said before me, you are perfectly entitled to your belief, and you have to make your own choices. I'm just curious to know why you used to believe in reincarnation, but now you don't?
I sincerely hope that others here will be able to help to convince you, there is plenty of evidence available, a lot of it right here in the forum, but it's ultimately up to you to make your own mind up. I hope you find the answers that you're looking for, and I hope that you enjoy your time here.
Chris
