How does a soul select its future parents

[Stephl]

Thanks Ken and Iris. Yes my son did outgrow these memories (he's 18 now). I haven't done much reading about it, but what little I have seen makes me think it is quite remarkable that so many of the experiences these children describe are so similiar to each other and what my son had recounted. (Such as waiting in heaven, looking down and watching their families, and even falling down to earth etc.). I'll have to check out those books you mention Iris.

Sadly, I didn't realise then that he would come to forget what, at the time, seemed like a fairly persistent memory (or belief). I thought he would be able to explain it better when he was older. Maybe ours is a cautionary tale!

It might seem mean to find it amusing, but when he was a toddler my boy used to shuffle around hunched over and with one hand on his back like he had back trouble (he didn't). My pet name for him was little old man. His favourite pants were checked and looked like golf trousers - so that just completed the look!

 

[GreyReynard]

I have couple stories concerning my niece. Both touch on subjects discussed in this thread.

From talking to my sister, my niece talked some about this in between time before birth. My niece said she had met her great grandmother, who was deceased, before coming here. She called the grandmother by her first name, which is impressive because the family always used a nickname for the grandmother.

She also informed my sister that they had a hard time getting her and her husband together so she could be born. Interesting that she used the plural. Made it sound that the souls chose their parents and help get them together.

Also, I am convinced that I was visited in a dream by my niece’s soul/spirit while my sister was pregnant with her. I was young and in school when this happened. But I found myself in a gray room with white Greek/Roman columns in the corners. I don’t know if there were gray walls or just a nothingness that appeared gray between and past the columns. It was like nothing I’d ever seen before. A column about waist high in the center of the room had a cushion with a baby sitting on it. The baby started communicating with me. It was like she was talking but I don’t think her lips moved. She told me she was very important. She said she had lived many lives. She listed off several. In the dream I made sure I remembered one because I am horrible with lists. One of the lives was as a Queen. She proceeded to make me promise to look after her, if something happened to my sister and brother in law. She was very insistent and demanding. I remember thinking this is just a dream so I will tell you whatever makes you happy. I said I would so she’d quit bothering me. Then I woke up.

It was very vivid and stuck with me. I dismissed some of the dream. I thought it odd a soul would be allowed to make that demand of me, when I wasn’t the parent. I also believe people reincarnate within lineages. I had done a lot of genealogy and found no links to royalty. I never discussed the dream with anyone.

Well many years later my sister picked up where I left off with the family heritage. She discovered a link to royalty. We are directly related to a lot of ancient royalty, many different Queens. So I decided to tell my sister about the dream. The niece was almost done with high school. My sister told me that it gave her chills, because the niece had told her very recently that she was worried about me being able to take care of her if something happened because I have several children.

From this I feel that souls/spirits seem to be very busy and not bound to the fetus until it is very close to time for birth.

 

[Lena]

Choosing our parents

I actually do know of a case where a girl in India reincarnated very close to where she had died and in a very short time between lives, but she only chose her parents to be able to get back to her "real" family. It was boradcast on a cable channnel a few months ago, but I think it may even have been PBS. So I don't know that all children choose families that they are very happy with.

The other serious question that I have is about miscarriages. One of the replies was that the girl saw her Mom and she was a few months pregnant. So would you feel that the soul enters into the fetus later than the first few weeks of conception.

I have had 9 miscarraiges myself and have two live children and one on the way. Both of my kids are the joy of our lives and my husband and I have been in love with each other and have a wonderful life together. We were never poor, but we certainly had life challenges.

I know that those 9 that I lost never developed normally to begin with cause my egg quality was so very bad. I would hate to think that the babies had chosen to come to us and then rejected us. And I don;t believe that could be the case, cause the embryos were checked and were noted to be genetically defective. I don;t think any sould would come down to something that it knows it could not survive.

What I would distinctly hate to think is that of those babies that have gotten past the first few weeks of life in the womb and start developing and then something goes wrong. I don't know how I would feel about that at all.

But I do believe that souls do pick where they want to go, I just don't know how far along into a pregnancy this would be the case, or whether they show up much later.

Paris

I actually remember being brought into my body by a being of light and love, who spoke to me explaining where I was… (that’s another story) a few days after I was born. My body was in its bassinet. My mother said she thought there was something wrong with me during my first three days… Then, suddenly I was animated… “I was there,” she said.

The experience of coming from the light was actually the first thing I ever was able to tell my parents about as a toddler. I recall the moment they realized I was trying to tell them something. My dad tried to tell me it was only a dream, but then the voice from the golden light returned and lovingly said “Lena, stop telling them about it or one day you will believe it was just a dream, and you will forget.”

Soul does not inhabit embryos permanently. They can pop in and out, but are not bound to the physical embryo until the time of actual birth, or shortly thereafter.

I am sorry you suffered through the miscarriages, but no soul suffered as a result…

 

[Polaris8]

Hi all souls.....this is my 1st posting here.
Is it true that our soul can select or determine our future parent in the physical world. Also that our soul can be around the future parents years before being born to the parent. Can any enlightened member throw some light here?

Mystiq,

If the soul is mature enough in spiritual evaluation, then yes, we pick our parents among many other things when planning out a physical incarnation. If not, then there are other souls, spiritual masters or avatars there will help in the process for us. This process usually takes places on the soul/causal plane of existence which is above the mental plane. Therefore, it is above time, space, matter and the lower worlds of duality.
Within this dimension all possible realities and outcomes of existences within the lower worlds are seen and known as a singularity. Meaning it is not linear in nature as we understand as human being put rather all possible outcomes can be known all at once. It is where were we plan out another physical lifetime. This is also where all of our past lives are kept within the akashic records within the soul body. Usually, our karma from our past lives which is being moved forward is what determines how things will play out for us. There is room for freewill to play out here as well if soul is ready to try a new way of expression within the physical dimension. Here we choose those that we have karma with like parents, friends, the race we will belong to, the gender we will be and culture ect... If we will start off rich, poor or middle class in life. Will the physical body be healthy and strong or have a handicap be it physical or mental among a host of other details. At this point there are usually three or four options that seems possible which are then narrowed down to one reality to be played out.

Once the commitment has been made there is usually no going back. However, it has been known for souls to be physically born but then finds that the situation is still not right, in which case the soul will exist early. Causing the baby to die. Or in cases of a still born the soul has decided not to accept the body at all. This sometimes happens but it's rare. Parents take this hard as if it was their fault but that's not true at all. The timing or situation was just not right at the moment that's all. The soul will try again when things come together for all concern.

Hope this help some. Also welcome to the forum.

Polaris