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Hello, I'm new here and thought I'd start with a question.
I've only been male once but I've been female 3 times (as far back as I can remember) and was wondering if that was common.
 
I'm the opposite, I was a Woman Warrior in a past life and the rest of the times male. I remember choosing male this time because I got anxious about the amount of clothes Woman were putting on these days and I wanted to keep the fashion simple. *shrugs* I probably in the incarnate realm for too long.
 
Hello Snowball, welcome to the forum wellllllcome


There are many threads scattered around the forum that would indicate it is quite common to switch genders from life to life. Whether the soul has a preference is open to debate, but I do think certain objectives in life can be fulfilled more easily according to gender, so I think it's a necessity more than choice.


Personally, I remember more female lives than male, I don't know if that is because I'm more inclined towards the female sex, or because I simply don't choose to remember my male lives? I think it would probably be more abnormal if all of my lives had been one or the other. We've probably been both sexes more equally than we think we have.
 
I was a bit surprised when I started reading into reincarnation that you could be both male and female.I agree with chris it will vary from person to person.for some it goes male the female then male.others it could be male male female.As long as I find love in my incarnations that all I want.
 
50:50 more or less. When I first started remembering, I thought I had some consecutive lives as a male, and then some consecutive lives as a female, but as I filled in the gaps I realized I switch gender almost in every life. I think it is because I don't like routine!
 
As usual, no memories to tell me one way or another.


However, my suspicion is that I have had at least a fair proportion of male lives. I'm quite definitely a woman in my looks and heterosexual, but I have a feeling I'm less "emotional" possibly than the "average woman". Things like shopping for something, for instance, tends to be done in a more typically "male" type way - as in I'll have done my research, head straight towards appropriate shops and not have the patience to go trying on endless different items of clothing before I expect to have found what I want and bought it.


I don't think I'm that unduly bothered either way in some respects as to what sex I am. But, my feeling is that the balance probably got swung towards a female body this time at least by the fact that wars over recent decades haven't tended to be fought directly on "our" territory (at least in Britain) and those fighting them have gone abroad to do so. Hence, it feels logical to be a woman this time round - because its harder for the Powers That Be and Society as a whole to expect me to physically take part in wars (being a woman) and I wouldn't have to be concerned about the fact that wars on own territory tend to involve invader nations raping the local women sometimes (being in this country that hasn't been invaded for some time).


Also, women had an earlier State Pension Age in Britain at the time I was born. I guess I didn't anticipate the "equalisation" of that before I reached retirement age, but I've still been able to get some of the benefit of being a woman (ie the State part of my pension will be turning up about 2 years sooner than it would if I were a man).


Maybe I was aware that, at about the time I became an adult, women would have full control of their fertility (and therefore I could guarantee my decision never to have children would be so), whereas, as a man I would have been at the mercy of any woman who decided to get pregnant on me and expected me to go along with it one way or another(whether I wanted or no). Being the first generation in recorded history where even one sex has absolute total say on that, but the other one hasn't yet meant my life would be much more under MY control as a woman than it would have been as a man.


Overall, I think I'm probably female this time round because I calculated that women born at the time I was in the country I was would overall get an easier life than an equivalent man would.


On the other hand, there have still been odd incidents of being discriminated against because of being a woman and my totally surprised and shocked reaction each time is probably quite a clue that I'm pretty used to being a man.


Errr...which does rather raise the question in my mind (not for the first time) as to what happens re meeting The One when, whatever sex you are, you're heterosexual. Does that mean that if you swop sex in a lifetime, then your soulmate has to do so too (or you wouldn't even be looking at them in "that sort of light") iyswim. Sort of agreement that "We'll be together in the next 2 lifetimes - so to do that then I'll be a man and you'll have to be a woman in Life 1, and then we'll both have to swop sex in Life 2 if we still want to be together"??
 
For a while I thought all my past lives were male, but now I've got memories of ... hmm.


Andean chaski (messenger): male


Asian "goddess": female


Japanese samurai: male


1-2 Greek Renaissance lifetimes scribe/accountant: male


European street boy/page: male


1-2 Celtic lifetimes (1 ancient, 1 recent): male


California in the 50s: female


This life: female


From what I have experienced, even when I'm male I'm still interested in men, though. So maybe that indicates my primary gender is female, in spite of all the male incarnations.
 
It seems to be 50/50 for me. I seem to switch whenever I get tired of being a particular sex, because "the grass is always greener..." As a woman I was tired of the discrimination/low status/ dependency typical for women in the past, and as I man I was mostly tired of military service, in particular after being a male in WW2 I'm female this life, and also a girl in a short one before this.


Demi
 
All the past lives I'm aware of have been male. Not just any males, but quite 'manly' males. This is the only life I know of where I'm female. And I don't particularly like it. I used to joke with my friend all the time about how I think I should have been born a man. My way of thinking is quite 'male' too in several ways. Certain aspects about me are very masculine (not really physically, but I am definitely not petite) and it's mainly the way I view things like war or the opposite gender that make my line of thinking distinctly male. For example - and I hope I don't make anyone feel uncomfortable here - intimitely speaking I only enjoy the thought of it from the male's point of view. I also hate the thought of wearing things like nail varnish, it makes me feel ill. Truthfully, I don't really like being a woman, though I do see the advantages. And I'm also extremely emotional - which is much more my 'womanly' side!
 
Ceridwen said:
Errr...which does rather raise the question in my mind (not for the first time) as to what happens re meeting The One when, whatever sex you are, you're heterosexual. Does that mean that if you swop sex in a lifetime, then your soulmate has to do so too (or you wouldn't even be looking at them in "that sort of light") iyswim. Sort of agreement that "We'll be together in the next 2 lifetimes - so to do that then I'll be a man and you'll have to be a woman in Life 1, and then we'll both have to swop sex in Life 2 if we still want to be together"??
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I wanted to respond to this also because it's an interesting point. This is something I used to think about with regard to my own "soulmate" (even though I consider him a total selfish waste of space) I am quite certain he has been a female several times in the past. He has very womanly qualities, even though he is a handsome man. But even his handsomeness is quite feminine - delicate features, etc. There's also a feminine sensitivity about him. I personally think that there is some swapping involved.
 
SkyeSpitfire said:
For example - and I hope I don't make anyone feel uncomfortable here - intimitely speaking I only enjoy the thought of it from the male's point of view.
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:D Glad to see I'm not the only one who feels like that, and for me it's been as long as I can remember. Like I have to "learn" how it's like to be a woman, and besides, all gender stereotyping makes me sick, esp. in regards to women. Things like "acting feminine"...saywhat
 
It's intresting that you bring up Soulmates , Skye , my soul mate and I have seemed to have a problem with gender selection as we're often the same gender, but fall into the same roles. We do usually just maintain a close Friendship in those cases.
 
Ceridwen said:
Errr...which does rather raise the question in my mind (not for the first time) as to what happens re meeting The One when, whatever sex you are, you're heterosexual. Does that mean that if you swop sex in a lifetime, then your soulmate has to do so too (or you wouldn't even be looking at them in "that sort of light") iyswim. Sort of agreement that "We'll be together in the next 2 lifetimes - so to do that then I'll be a man and you'll have to be a woman in Life 1, and then we'll both have to swop sex in Life 2 if we still want to be together"??
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Regarding soulmates, I don't think gender is a factor at all. Your soulmate can be your brother, sister, auntie, uncle, best friend, partner or even your next door neighbour, it all depends on what roles you have decided to play in each other's lives.
 
SkyeSpitfire said:
For example - and I hope I don't make anyone feel uncomfortable here - intimitely speaking I only enjoy the thought of it from the male's point of view. I also hate the thought of wearing things like nail varnish, it makes me feel ill. Truthfully, I don't really like being a woman, though I do see the advantages. And I'm also extremely emotional - which is much more my 'womanly' side!
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Whenever I read or hear about someone who wants to have a sex-change operation I want to tell them to have a past life regression before they go ahead with the surgery. But I'm sure they would think I'm crazy. After all, the "scientific experts" have come up with a rational explanation to explain why they feel the way they do. And how many doctors, surgeons, etc. are making big money off of them?
 
Personally do think that it is probably about 50 - 50 in the lives that I do remember. In a regression of the reason I changed genders from being male in the Rev. War and the Fur Trapper lives to being an Cheyenne Indian Woman afterwards was because I had become soooo tired of all the fighting, war, and such. And this is still the way I am now in this present life in that I sooooo absolutely detest anything to do with fighting, war, wrestling, and so forth. I even soooo dislike contentious debates that occur so much on the Internet anymore. Do know also in that a portain of the lives that I was male that I was some monk or one who more followed a more spiritual path it seems. And to add I have had several psychics who said of how nurturing I am in my inner self.


Wishing Everyone the Best!
 
Just one in the last 5 or 6 i remember has been male. I think like afew of you ive not been good at tuning into the opposite gender so there may be more. I have vague memories of 3 earlier male lives. Maybe i do runs of one then then the other.


I know as a child i was glad to be female & thought being a boy wouldn't be nice. I think alot of my male lives probably haven't suited me.


I like your summising ceridiwen & have a strong feeling i will be male next time for similar reasons. We are in a new generation & i may be handle being a new man or stay at home husband-lol.
 
Well, easy question for me since I've only dug up memories from one past life so far and I was male then, but I have the hunch I've spent plenty of time as both. Throughout our recordable history both sexes have had different opportunities to make different roles for themselves and so I'm not sure if I have had any preference, if preference does in fact have something to do with it.


Regarding soulmates, hmm. I think there are probably more than one of those out there, more than one of those special individuals who've been a part of my life or lives in special ways, but whether we meet and what role we play in each others' lives might have more to do with circumstance than I tend to think. This makes a lot of sense:

ChrisR said:
Regarding soulmates, I don't think gender is a factor at all. Your soulmate can be your brother, sister, auntie, uncle, best friend, partner or even your next door neighbour, it all depends on what roles you have decided to play in each other's lives.
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The way I see it, simply because someone was part of your life in one specific way (boyfriend or wife, for example) doesn't necessarily mean it has to be the exact same way now or in the future, even if they're a soulmate. I tend to think that someone can be a marked part of my life even if we're not sexually involved. I've really run into only one real 'soulmate' type this lifetime and we're not in any relationship like that at all, but we share a lot and this is certainly not the first time we've met. Maybe we were partners in the past, but neither of us has dug that up yet.
 
Demi said:
:D Glad to see I'm not the only one who feels like that, and for me it's been as long as I can remember. Like I have to "learn" how it's like to be a woman, and besides, all gender stereotyping makes me sick, esp. in regards to women. Things like "acting feminine"...saywhat
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I know what you mean. Plus, when I lucid dream or astral project, there are things I choose to do which I definitely would not be doing as a woman, haha.

argonne1918 said:
Whenever I read or hear about someone who wants to have a sex-change operation I want to tell them to have a past life regression before they go ahead with the surgery. But I'm sure they would think I'm crazy. After all, the "scientific experts" have come up with a rational explanation to explain why they feel the way they do. And how many doctors, surgeons, etc. are making big money off of them?
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It's funny, considering how the 'experts' know hardly anything about what they profess to know all about. Anything unorthodox is viewed as 'wrong' by the masses - personally, I don't care about that. I have my own plans to turn something unorthodox into a trend itself!
 
I think this is the first male life I have had,


or at least the first in a very long time,


I showed up as male to learn, something denied to me as a woman last time,


to bad I had no idea that women could go to school in this era,


I have had a hard time adjusting, not doing so well at it, and not going to do it again any time soon.
 
Ceridwen said:
Errr...which does rather raise the question in my mind (not for the first time) as to what happens re meeting The One when, whatever sex you are, you're heterosexual. Does that mean that if you swop sex in a lifetime, then your soulmate has to do so too (or you wouldn't even be looking at them in "that sort of light") iyswim. Sort of agreement that "We'll be together in the next 2 lifetimes - so to do that then I'll be a man and you'll have to be a woman in Life 1, and then we'll both have to swop sex in Life 2 if we still want to be together"??
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You're under the assumption that sexuality is something that is consistent lifetime through lifetime. Many people remember having different sexualities through different lifetimes, it just depends on what our path is in a certain life and our goals. Also, soul mates don't necessarily need to be a lover, they can be a friend or relative. I think I have had at least two in this life, my brother and my significant other.
 
ZeonChar said:
You're under the assumption that sexuality is something that is consistent lifetime through lifetime. Many people remember having different sexualities through different lifetimes, it just depends on what our path is in a certain life and our goals. Also, soul mates don't necessarily need to be a lover, they can be a friend or relative. I think I have had at least two in this life, my brother and my significant other.
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Possibly. Who knows? The jury is out on that one.


Maybe different people have different priorities as to what they are or aren't prepared to "go against the crowd" on???


Maybe my own personal take on things is that I am prepared to "go against the crowd" on matters that relate to opinions in that country and that century, but am firmly "bedded into" things that are pretty universal (ie The One has to be opposite sex). Who knows? Each to their own and its my own personal take on things that anyone can be what they want to be but my own take is that I mean Them/The Significant Other when I say "soulmate" and I expect that to mean they are the opposite sex to me. Just my take on things....


Just my take on things I guess...ie that sex and romance are very pleasant "extras" if possible and hence the "opposite sex" in my book personally.


Each to their own and in no way denigrating the value of same sex meaningful relationships of whatever description.


It's just nice to think someone might love you (in the "Eros" sense) once in a while, rather than the "Agape" sense (which could be someone of either sex) iyswim.


In some ways I can get where you are coming from. As in, in this lifetime for instance, I have a very good friend (same sex) that I am in rather a mother/daughter relationship with. She isn't old enough to be my mother this time, but that is the level of the relationship.
 
I had a dream about my male life the other night. It was a repeat dream but went abit further.


It was Mexico/Central America. I was sat in a bar/cafe with other men. I'm not sure if we were drinking but we'd eaten and I think were playing cards.


There was one long wood table, 3 or 4 of us either side. We're workers and this is the end of the day. I'm not sure whether it's a farm we're working on or some sort of construction.


What absolutely struck me was the lack of being able to talk about my inner most feeling with these people. There's no animosity, we talk generally but I have deep feelings inside and nobody to share them with. It's not the thing for a man to do and I'm pretty certain the reason I've chosen to be female since.


I return to my room and just feel lonely.
 
kmatjhwy said:
Personally do think that it is probably about 50 - 50 in the lives that I do remember. In a regression of the reason I changed genders from being male in the Rev. War and the Fur Trapper lives to being an Cheyenne Indian Woman afterwards was because I had become soooo tired of all the fighting, war, and such. And this is still the way I am now in this present life in that I sooooo absolutely detest anything to do with fighting, war, wrestling, and so forth. I even soooo dislike contentious debates that occur so much on the Internet anymore.
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I feel exactly the same way. Maybe its a case of "been there, done that, not doing it again."
 
starrynight said:
What absolutely struck me was the lack of being able to talk about my inner most feeling with these people. There's no animosity, we talk generally but I have deep feelings inside and nobody to share them with. It's not the thing for a man to do and I'm pretty certain the reason I've chosen to be female since.
I return to my room and just feel lonely.
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I think my entire history of lives has been teaching me to stand up against this sort of "social normal" as a real standard for how to live. This man knew he needed deeper conversation, yet he was quelled by the social pattern. And yet, it is by breaking the pattern that we create new opportunities for each other.


I see why people shift gender or social status or religion from life to life in an attempt to find what they need, only to learn they are all lacking something. What if we learned to be true and real in a way that alters the pattern? :rolleyes:


Maybe that's why we try different genders and such ... to learn what it is that all social constructs are missing and how to be "the one" to bring it out where everyone can find it.
 
I haven't really been keeping track of genders, so I had to go count it up--almost exactly 50/50, and I have no discernible preference for either. I generally tend to alternate, though once or twice I've gone same gender back-to-back. Throughout most of history (and to some extent even today), the societal experience of men and women has differed significantly. I imagine that variation is an important part of understanding the complete human condition. That is not to say that some souls might prefer to do long "runs" as one gender and then another, but that doesn't appear to have been my practice.


As to the soulmate issue, I don't appear to have one in the strictly romantic sense. I do understand that I have a number of peer souls with whom I regularly incarnate, most often in a familial or romantic relationship. My beloved wife of two lifetimes ago is my best friend now (I'm currently a heterosexual woman, he's currently a homosexual man). My current husband has been my husband before, and my wife, and my twin sister (not all in one go, thank goodness!) Sexuality has varied, and is usually not a major preoccupation in my lives.
 
SkyeSpitfire said:
All the past lives I'm aware of have been male. Not just any males, but quite 'manly' males. This is the only life I know of where I'm female. And I don't particularly like it. I used to joke with my friend all the time about how I think I should have been born a man. My way of thinking is quite 'male' too in several ways. Certain aspects about me are very masculine (not really physically, but I am definitely not petite) and it's mainly the way I view things like war or the opposite gender that make my line of thinking distinctly male. For example - and I hope I don't make anyone feel uncomfortable here - intimitely speaking I only enjoy the thought of it from the male's point of view. I also hate the thought of wearing things like nail varnish, it makes me feel ill. Truthfully, I don't really like being a woman, though I do see the advantages. And I'm also extremely emotional - which is much more my 'womanly' side!
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Varnish? okay I never heard of nail polish made of varnish?:laugh:


I agree it's smells bad enamel is smell that makes you sick.
 
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