Past Life Dream of Vietnam War?

[Rajmo6779]

Hi there. I'm new here, but I had posted two or three times in the Memory Triggers thread before the website upgrade, and SeaAndSky, argonne1918, and ZeonChar had all kindly replied. Somehow during the upgrade, those posts were lost, so forgive me for reposting the same information here, but I am determined to try and figure this out.


I had posted that I have a memory of a very realistic dream that I had when I was five years old. To recap; I woke up in the night but wasn't awake, I was "stuck" in the dream. I heard gunshots and explosions, and I got up and ran from my room on one side of the house, through the living room, to my mom and dad's room, clear on the other side of the house. The living room had a large picture window. In the dream, I saw soldiers outside, and at least one helicopter. Shots were being fired, and I was ducking as I ran passed the window because I was sure I was going to be hit. I don't even remember getting to my mother's side, I just remember that horrifying feeling that I was going to be shot.


In one of my original posts I surmised maybe I had been my grandfather since he served in WWII. Someone pointed out in a reply that helicopters weren't widely used until the Korean War and the Vietnam War. After reading that reply I looked up Vietnam War era helicopters and found one exactly like the one in the dream, and had attempted to post a link to a picture (is that allowed?)


So now that I've caught you all up with what was posted before the website upgrade and then lost after, I have more information to add.


I talked to my mother about a cousin of my father's who had fought in the Vietnam War and died there. I found out that his name is the male version of my name (for example, Stephan and Stephanie, though not our names). Also of interest is that he wore glasses like me. (I was able to look him up online.) I also learned in my online search that he was 24 years old when he died, that he arrived on Januar 4, 1969, and died in action on January 28, 1969. It is interesting to note that I was born in November of 1969.


That's a tight timeline, but it does work. That would give me time to have been conceived and then born after he died. Doesn't make me him, but it's at least a lead. I very much want to get to the bottom of that dream. It was a living nightmare.


Thanks for reading!

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Rajmo,


In terms of posts disappearing, I have quite a few gone. The same is being noted by others. I'm hoping they can be restored.

In terms of the subject matter of your posts, I'm glad you are following up. I found the facts you initially set out very interesting, and these new discoveries also fit in very well. Of course, at this point, fitting in merely means that your father's cousin can't be excluded as a possibility. Unfortunately, it will probably take a good deal more before you can nail him down as a definite or at least highly probable. This will probably mean seeking more memories through meditation or regression. These may lead to more links directly to him, or at least narrow the field.


In the meantime, curiosity questions:


(1) have you seen a picture of him, do you feel anything in particular on seeing his picture, do you see any resemblance? People often report feeling fairly "nailed" by something when they see a putative PL image of themselves, likewise, there appears to be some carry over of resemblance. On the latter, don't be surprised if there is not much. If you're making a transition from male to female, or from very different ethnic backgrounds, resemblance is definitely going to be affected. Likewise, parental genetics also play a role even when all other factors are similar. However, there can definitely be some carry-over. Ian Stevenson has suggested the existence of some type of biofield that is perhaps generated by the incarnating entity and influences the development of the body within the range allowed by the genetic makeup.


(2) asking around the family do you find any similarities in terms of, e.g., talents, traits, attitudes, likes/dislikes, etc.? Of course, on this point as well as the prior there is going to be some similarities that grow out of the fact that you are related. However, queries like this can still bring some interesting results.


Cordially,


S&S

 

[tanguerra]

All the old posts are stored. They are working on a solution to update hyperlinks to them.


Meanwhile, you can use the 'Search' box in the top right hand corner to find your stuff. Drop down the arrow and select 'Advanced'. You can enter your own username and find all posts started by yourself. It's a work around for now at least.

 

[Rajmo6779]

Tanquerra—Thank you for the information. Unfortunately I’m apparently as challenged with the search feature here on the forum as I am with my favorite search engine. I tried multiple ways and multiple times to search for my lost posts, but alas I cannot find them. I also want to take this time to say that I read the entire thread about your friend X, and cried when I read you post that he passed away. I’m so very sorry for your loss, and I hope that with time, your happy memories of time spent with him will ease the ache in your heart.


Sea&Sky—Oh my gosh it’s been a wild ride since your last post! I haven’t posted because I needed time to sit with this. I read your post and then pondered. And then I did some digging—called one of my father’s sisters. She was only able to return my call today. And WOW what a call it was! (I’ve been on a roller coaster ride!)


So to back up to the day I read your previous post…I was fairly certain that I was not my father’s cousin, because when I looked at his military picture on the internet, I felt nothing. The only things we have in common for looks are that we both wear glasses and both have a “baby face†and look much younger than our calendar age. Also, I was kind of thrown off by the fact that he’s male and I’m female in this lifetime. Just looking at his picture I felt blank—nothing.


And when you first mentioned Vietnam in the posts that are now kinda lost after the upgrade, my first reaction was, “Oh please no, not Vietnam,†but not in an “Oh gawd no,†kind of way, it was more of a, “Oh anything but that!†Almost like any other war would have been okay but that one. I’m not sure what to think about that reaction or about the fact that I still today feel like that…I just really don’t want it to be the Vietnam war. In my head all I can hear when I think about it is, “Hell no, I won’t go!â€


So those two things left me feeling disappointed, like I didn’t know where to go next. I was almost to the point where I thought I would give up on this idea. And I decided to call my dad’s sister. The conversation today was really, really exciting, and at one point I got chills down my spine.


My aunt told me that there was a lot of rivalry between my father and his cousin. In the family dynamic my father was the naughty little rascal and the cousin was the golden child. He was adored by everyone, adults and children alike because he was helpful, kind, and gentle, and sweet. Apparently he and my father had a love-hate relationship, more hate on my father’s side out of jealousy. The cousin was something of a peacemaker in the family (which, if you know Polish families, can be quite tumultuous—I get to say that on account of having grown up in one!). This felt like good information to me because I have always been the peacemaker in my own family, with my parents and brother, and now with my husband and my sons.


At this point in the conversation, I was thinking, “Hmmmm.†Then my aunt described the relationship that she had with the cousin, and apparently they were very close and shared many common interests. This aunt happens to be one of the people I consider to be a soulmate of mine, and I really felt an anticipation when she talked about him and how kind he was when they played together as children.


We talked quite a while about him, and as she was talking about him, she suddenly dropped his formal first name and used his nickname—this is the point where I was stunned to the point that I almost sucked in my breath and dropped the phone. His nickname, that his parents gave him, was exactly the nickname my husband uses for me. My husband is the one who coined the nickname, and nobody else uses it for me. It’s a derivative of my first name, which if you will recall from my previous post, is the female version of my father’s cousins first name.


The interesting thing is that my husband is French (the imported kind—not an American with a French last name) and he “francophied†(if you’ll permit me to make up a word) my first name to come up with the nickname. The twist in it is that my father’s side of the family is 100 percent Polish on both sides (his mom and his dad). My grandparents immigrated from Poland, and so did my father’s cousin’s parents. The nickname my aunt used so affectionately for her cousin, my father’s cousin, is the Polish spelling of a nickname commonly used for his name in Poland. And it’s the same, exact nickname as mine—pronounced identically, but certainly spelled differently.


To me, it felt like an, “Ah-HA!†moment. Truly. I feel all airy and light about it. Hopefully I’m not just being a goofball. I realize of course it’s early in my research and I haven’t done any regressions or meditations or had any other dreams, etc., but it really was a jaw-dropping experience. Because at first when she said his nickname I was shocked and felt a chill go down my spine. And then I had to sort of re-think what she had just said thinking that maybe somehow she knew that was my husband’s little nickname for me and was addressing me. Then I realized she couldn’t know that nickname, he normally only puts it in writing because it’s like his little pet name for me. So I honestly feel like it’s a clue and maybe I need to chase this a little further with regression and/or meditation, etc.


Thanks for listening. I appreciate your patience with my Sniffles the Mouse rambling.

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Rajmo,


This is a wonderful post!


In terms of attitude towards the Viet Nam war, I think you have nailed it, and I can completely understand your attitude and why you would pretty well prefer it to have been just about any other war than that one. There are a variety of people on the board that can tell you about those years, and I expect you will also hear from some of the others. I was in the first draft lottery, but had a number high enough to not go--believe me I breathed a sign of relief. All you have to do is listen to some of the protest songs from the era to understand what most young people in America felt about the war. Nonetheless, choices were limited for young males that were drafted. You either did "your patriotic duty" or became a criminal. Most went, but most weren't happy about it, and just would've been happy to live through the experience and make it home. This is something that your cousin--who was quite possibly your prior iteration on this plane of existence--was not fortunate enough to achieve.


In terms of the picture of your cousin, I think you might be surprised if you look at even earlier pictures of your putative PL. Female faces change less in growing up, they do not undergo the more extreme growth of jaw, brow and other features that characterize male appearance. Hence, to make a fair comparison, you will probably need to look at childhood pictures of your cousin--the younger the better. (Even here, little boys and little girls can look different, but the differences are not as exaggerated). Anyhow, compare these to yourself and/or your own childhood pictures, especially the youngest, and you may be surprised by what you find. Once again, the family relationship blurs things, so any conclusions you reach will be impacted and rendered less certain by this, but it is worth a try.


In terms of attitudes, you sound very much like your cousin. And, perhaps more accurately, he sounds a lot like you. I'll probably have to explain why I put it that way. Cross-gender incarnation is a bit weird when you first learn/think about it, but with time one begins to realize that it makes sense in terms of balancing out people's experiences, strengths, and perspectives. However, there is dispute on the board about whether we are ultimately gendered entities (and here I definitely mean gender and not sex, the former is a much broader concept than the latter). I'm on the "gendered" side of this dispute. Stevenson's research shows cross-gender incarnations happening only 1 or 2 out of 10 PLs. So, that seems to indicate something about innate gender and/or gender preference (which may be the same thing). Anyhow, I bring this up because I am not particularly PC (politically correct), and your description of your own temperament is to me prototypically feminine, i.e., the reconciler and peace-maker in the family. (I've been called sexist, but that is the way I see it, with the proviso that both genders are required to pick up and strengthen themselves spiritually by incorporating the best of the other gender). So, I tend to think that your current sex is more reflective of your natural gender, which would mean that you just had a very unfortunate experience in your last cross-gender foray. Just a guess at this point, but . . .


Cordially,


S&S


PS--Wonderful about your nick-name. That seems very much beyond being mere coincidence!

 

[Rajmo6779]

Hi SeaAndSky,


I will have to see about digging up some family photos. Will approach my mother first, and ask for childhood photos of my dad's that she might still have at her house. Will take me quite a while to dig those up since she's clear across the country from me, but patience will surely pay off.


The whole gender issue is absolutely fascinating. I feel okay that I could have been my cousin in the last incarnation even though he was male and I'm female. Somehow, knowing he was a really nice guy makes it a lot more palatable.


My husband is going to be suspicous now that I'm suddenly curious about the Vietnam war. I've been looking into movies about and from that era to load up into the ol' Netflix queue. Ha! But one never knows when one will get a "trigger," eh!?


I'll post more when I know more. I just wanted to be sure and sign in and thank you profusely, from the bottom of my heart, for reading my posts and responding. I really appreciate it!


Most Sincerely,


RM

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Ramjo,


You're very welcome! BTW--One thing I forgot to mention, the pairing with your father is also something that happens quite a bit in PL cases. The same folks, who are tied together in a relational sense, tend to continue to show up in various relationship patterns in each others lives. (This appears to be tied in with a phenomenon known as "soul groups"). Often, as in your case, there may be a bit of something from a PL or PLs that needs to be worked out or through. In this case, a somewhat acrimonious relationship or maybe just less than positive attitude (at least from your father's side) that needed balancing.


Best,


S&S


PS--In regression, people often remember/realize that someone they now know as a relative, spouse, friend, or etc. used to be their child, parent, etc. So, this may also be something that comes to you if you continue to travel this path.

 

[Rajmo6779]

Hi SeaAndSky,


Okay so here's the thing. I haven't said it here in this forum yet because I didn't want anyone to think I was cuckoo, but I guess this forum is actually the best place to say it. I have wondered, more than once, whether my third born son is actually the same soul as my father. I have multiple reasons to suspect this.

1. Baby pictures of my father look exactly like my son. He has my father's coloring exactly--pale white skin, dark brown hair and brown eyes.
   
2. My father was infamous for his sense of humor--people comment all the time about how funny my baby is and he's only 17 months old. His humor far surpasses his age. Sometimes it raises eyebrows and people are really baffled as to how he knew something was funny.
   
3. My first born son was the darling of my father, and my father gave him a special nickname. The baby can't say my son's name yet but when he calls out my eldest son's name it comes out sounding exactly like the nickname my father used. It was a nickname my father made up, and not one commonly used (my father had a way of doing that with everyone).
   
4. My father had an eyebrown that was "broken" and grew straight upwards from the arch in the middle to the outside edge of the brow. It was damaged when a dog big him when he was a little boy. My baby's eyebrows both grow upwards from the arch to the outside edge of the brow.
   
5. My father was also known for being particularly fond of buxom women (I hope it's okay to say that here on this forum, I don't mean to be dirty, he was never lecherous, but always funny). When a woman on TV or in a movie has particularly "showy" in that way, he would wiggle his eyebrows and then make a funny noise with his lips, like a boat motor. Twice, when my baby was about 7 or 8 months old, he put his face into my decollatage and made that motor boat sound!! I was floored! And he laughed out loud when he did it! I literally said to him, "Oh my God, Daddy, is that -you-!?" (Disclaimer: My father never EVER did that to me. He wasn't a pervert, just an admirer from afar of busty celebrities.)
   
6. My baby adores my mother, and even says "Nana" in his sleep. When I talk on the phone with her, he wants the phone. I talk to plenty of other people, but he never cares when I'm on the phone with anyone but my mother. She's only visitited twice now (she lives clear across the country from me), but he absolutely adores her.
   

Perhaps that list doesn't look like mounting evidence to anyone but me, but I am anxiously awaiting the time when my little one can talk clearly (he's 17 months old) and he insists that he's my daddy.


I really need to see if I can find someone who can help me with regression. I am anxious to persue this further.


Thanks once more for listening. You've been so kind and I really appreciate your time!


Sincerely,


​Rajmo

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Rajmo,


I've seen many cases of this type reported on this board--and I'm a relative newcomer. I've also read about many more. In-family reincarnation seems to be very common. As with your cousin and yourself, the reincarnation of your father as your newest son seems to be a very viable working hypothesis. As with all hypotheses, it should be subject to further verification, but the types of things you are talking about would seem to be far more than coincidence, or genetic carry-overs. I'll be curious what he says when he can talk. Don't be/act surprised and take copious notes. Those early life memories are often astonishing, but they seem to fade as the child grows up out of the infant/toddler stage and becomes fully "one" with the current lifetime.


BTW--The only thing you've listed that I may have doubts about in terms of relevance is #4, and only because both eyebrows grow in the manner you have expressed. One of the major areas of Stevenson's research was the presence and confirmation of scar-like birthmarks and other physical peculiarities that related to prior traumatic injuries. So, in terms of the eyebrow, it would probably be better proof if the anomaly was accompanies by a scar/birthmark, etc. and/or was only on the side of your father's injured eyebrow.


Overall, you might want to read Carol Bowman's book on children's past lives. It is not only a great introduction to the whole subject area of modern reincarnation research, it is great in terms of how to deal with past life memories in children. (BTW2--I don't get a % and you can probably find it at your local library). Also, it will be useful to be able to put your hands on something you can hand to your family to read when/if the time comes.


Cordially,


S&S