Shared Memories with your children

[deborah]

In Carols' first book Children's Past Lives - she has a chapter on Triggers and how connected children are with their parents - specifically mothers.

I am curious if members share memories with their children and if not -- perhaps your children share memories.

It isn't something that is talked about a lot here - the fact that some children not only remember, but their siblings also remember and they sometimes act and react based on the PAST.

Please share your thoughts, reflections and experiences. I for one am very interested.

 

[Chelle]

Of my children, only one of them so far has had any memories, and those are mixed with fantasy to some degree. All three of my children have carried over knowledge that could only have been obtained in a past life since they weren't exposed to anything that could have influenced that knowledge in this life. However, there hasn't been any memories or behavior that would indicate memories of a shared life.

 

[deborah]

I have not shared the following for four years - so this seems to be a good time and place to do so again. Note: Daniel is now 20 years old.

I never talked to my son Daniel about any of my past life memories. I had never talked to him about the possibilities of reincarnation. But in 1990 when Daniel was five, he volunteered some incredible validation for me. He actually remembered being my sister, he even remembered my name.

I was in the kitchen cooking dinner, he was being a typical five year old boy, obnoxious as ever. I had just gotten after him to behave when he turned around and said, " Well, you used to lock me in the tool shed." I wheeled around suddenly and said, "Well, you used to get me in trouble." I stopped dead in my tracks. I had to think about what I had just said. It was not a conscious statement. We didn't have a tool shed. I never locked my son in any room, not even his. And how in the world could he get me in trouble?

So I asked him, "When was this Daniel?" He replied, "When you were my brother." His answer was incredible, I couldn't believe it. As calmly as I could, I asked him, "Did I do that?" He said, "Yeah, when I was a girl." Daniel would never admit to being a girl, he was all boy.

I decided to see if possibly he was talking about a past life I had remembered a few years ago, so I asked him my name. Daniel smiled and replied, "you were Butch," and then he said, "my name was Alishia." A sense of joy rushed through my body. A thrill that can only be described as a soul moment, an awareness, a recognition that went beyond words. I had remembered long before this, that my name was Alexander and my sisters name was Alishia, but I had also remembered long before this, that my family called me “Butch.”

As quickly as he had offered up the information, and as children will often do, he ended the conversation, turned and ran out of the room heading for the backyard to play. He seemed to move in and out of an altered state with ease. I admire that in children. Daniel seemed to remember what I knew from meditations, regressions and visions. But it was his innocence that spoke volumes to me. It was a ‘jewel’ -- a shining light that in that moment enabled me to see that my memories were possibly true! It was just so incredible -- the feelings, the thoughts, the knowing that we actually shared a past life together.

I had carefully dated and recorded each memory as I experienced them over the past five years dating back to my first memory in 1985. Within them was my name Alexander (Butch) and my sister's name (Alishia). Each entry was my attempt to hold on to my soul moments, so I would never forget. What I found was that they were so deeply engrained into my soul, my consciousness, that they were easily brought to the surface again without going into a meditation.

Not to mention.... it is another form of validation..it wasn't my imagination, or wishful thinking or trying to remember. It was spontaneous for both of us and the details matched.

I am hoping to hear from more parents. Have any of you done a meditation with your child? That to can be very revealing.

 

[deborah]

Since the voting is so low, and the responses too -I will change the question.

Why do you think it is that there are so few parents that share memories with their children? Is it a veil of forgetfulness so that the souls can have a fresh start? Is it because the souls are new to each other? I would love to read - your thoughts.

 

[Ailish]

Hi Deborah,

I would love to be able to answer your question, but I don't have children yet So, although I cannot answer from the perspective of a parent, I can from that of a daughter.
I don't have shared memories with my biological mother or father. I truly believe that this is due to the fact that they have never been a part of any lifetime of mine...they are new souls to me. It's not just the lack of recognition, or memories that leads me to believe this...there are many other contributing factors.
As for parents with young children that don't have shared memories, I think the same could be true for them...they are new to each other. But I suppose, in some cases, that perhaps they have worked out what they needed to from a previous life, and there is no need to remember. Just my thoughts


Ailish

 

[Chelle]

I think if both parent and child had past life memories, or two siblings both had memories, they would probably remember lives they have shared. Particularily if they recalled past lives, and noticed odd dynamics in their current relationship. I think the dynamics of the relationship past and/or present is very important to the recall of shared lives in most cases.

I have mentioned reliving two deaths in childbirth. I related one of them here. The second one I remembered really helped me understand the birth of my oldest in this life. In that life I died along with the child I was delivering, in this life that child is my oldest (he was my second born in that life) and we both would have died in the same manner had it not been for modern technology. I have been careful not to mention this to anyone that might speak of it in front of my son, because if he one day remembers, I don't want his memories tainted with what he might hear of mine.

If we start looking at the relationship dynamics it can sometimes be clear, without pl memories, that there was a relationship there before this life.

When I watch the bond between my two oldest children, it amazes me. I have been told that it is unusual to have two children, over 5 years apart in age, that are that close. The bond has been there since before the younger one's birth and neither of my older children have that same kind of bond with their younger brother. It seems clear to me that those two have been close long before entering this life.

I have mentioned here several years ago that my oldest child called my dad Pakka up until he was three, even though he had no trouble pronouncing the word Grampa. My youngest child will also sometimes call my dad Pakka and he also has been able to say Grampa before using the name Pakka. We have speculated that this came from a past life, but no memories have surfaced, to date, to confirm that to be the case. My middle child has never done that, but she will often call me Gramma, then correct herself to say Mama. I'm the only one that I have noticed her calling by the wrong name. I have yet to remember a life where I lived long enough to know my grandchildren, but I wouldn't be at all suprised if she was indeed my granddaughter in a previous life. :laugh:

I could go on and on with my observations, but I think I've stated my case. :laugh: Speculation on such things is one of my favorite hobbies.

 

[Fab]

My son is too young and he can barelly talk yet but i am looking foward to hear the memories he might have later on...

 

[elese]

I haven't really shared memories with anyone yet... I know peole that I have known... but like NO ONE I know even beleives in reincarnation... except the people I'm not quite as connected to... but looking forward to children someday and everything they have to say...

 

[deborah]

One of the things that occured to me when reflecting on the possibilities, is that souls reincarnate together but may also skip life times. In other words the most recent past life for a child may not be the most recent past life for the parent. My family members seem to jump countries. My niece Emilee - in her most recent past life was a Russian Ballerina. She was quite well known but was in a terrible car accident and was horribly burned and scarred for life. My sisters son, and Emilee's brother had a past life in China, and my sister was a Black Slave during the Civil War. So - no correlations that is evident. BUT somewhere - at sometime, they have crossed paths before. Just not recently that we are aware of.

Any new members want to add to this thread? Or vote?

 

[Saau Hatshepsut]

Hi all, I'm very new here and have just been enjoying reading the stories of others with past life experiences.

I do not have children, and nor am I planning to have any, but recently my sister gave birth to a baby girl who I strongly suspect was my daughter in a previous life.
The nutshell version is that I was 'visited' twice by her before she was born - once to tell me she was on the way (I knew my sister was pregnant two days before even she suspected), and again to show me that we were connected. Now she is a happy 8-month old, and I adore her more than I could have ever imagined. There's obviously no way yet for me to confirm the particular life that I believe we shared, but it is telling that of all the other relatives, she treats me most like a parent. She's in a phase at the moment where she cries if she's not with her parents, or with me, which is something that others have noticed.
Quite funny too is that she seems to recognise me no matter what. When I was young, my father shaved off his moustache and my sister flat out refused to accept that he was her father. This weekend I cut and dyed my hair to an extent that I look dramatically different from what I did, but my niece didn't even bat an eye, just laughed and treated me as normal.
Needless to say, I'm *really* looking forward to her growing up to see if she remembers anything.

Cheers,

Saau

 

[Ailish]

Hi Saau,

Welcome to the forum! What a great story about you and your niece :thumbsup: It's interesting that she came to you to let you know she was on the way She probably wanted to make sure that you recognized the connection when she was born. It sounds like you have a wonderful bond! Please keep us informed when she starts to talk...I'd be very interested in hearing what she has to say! :laugh:


Ailish

 

[deborah]

HI Saau,

Please keep us updated. It's an interesting string of events when both the child and the adult remember. A whole new level of understanding to be sure.

 

[Saau Hatshepsut]

Hi Deborah,

I've just spent the last few days with my niece, and now she's a little older and more responsive, I've been keeping an eye out for any signs of what I suspect. I could be entirely biased in this area, of course, but it's hard not to be. She's picked up a new habit that I believes relates back directly to a past life with her I remember, and when I asked my sister, she said that it wasn't something they had taught her, she just started doing it one day. Also, she seems to react positively whenever I say her old name, and almost every time it brings a smile to her face.
Just little things like that, but all very positive. I now adamantly believe that she and I decided, prior to incarnating, that since I wasn't going to have children myself, she would be in the best hands with my sister. Everytime I see my sister care for her, or say how much she loves her, I feel so relieved and happy that it was the right choice.

Cheers,

Saau

 

[Karoliina]

I won't vote yet as my firstborn will be 6 months soon but I think I remember several shared past lives with her - I just have to wait patiently for her to confirm this. Or then she won't, you never know. I also believe she came to my dreams twice to tell me she's coming - or then it was someone else, but anyway I was informed.

One interesting thing is that I recently remembered a PL I think was shared with both my sisters - and we were also sisters in that lifetime. My younger sister was called Martha in the PL, and when we were children in this life, we other sisters would call her jokingly Martta, which is the Finnish equivalent of Martha. Her name is Maiju now.

Karoliina

 

[vanhalen50one50]

I will not vote yet as I have no children. I will be watching my little second-cousin when I see him. He is around two so hopefully I will hear something soon. I don't think his parents would be too into the idea of past lives...

 

[vicky]

I had a memory of being a Red Coat or British soldier on American soil. I was with a group of other soldiers and I was wounded. Some Iroquois indians came and spoke with us.


My son also has a memory of being a Red Coat and having dealings with Iroquios indians. I did not specifically recognize my son when I had that past life memory but he told me that I was his friend in the Red Coat life and his father now was his brother.


He gave me his name. I looked it up and verified it. He did indeed have a brother and a father with the same name which he also mentioned.


Since he had so many other details correct and verifiable, I trust his memory on this one.


Vicky

 

[deborah]

Do any new members have thoughts to add?

 

[msmir]

Well, in my case I KNOW my daughter in this life was my mother in my last life during the Holocaust. I was ripped away from her and funny enough she did survive but died from a stroke 2 years post war. She lived briefly in Belgium and then in Holland, and apparently me in spirit was Earthbound just to be with her during those times. Funny enough I always had a yearning to go to both Belgium and Holland. And I did go there 12 years ago, and I felt a hint of sadness while there. Anyway back to the original topic... I knew she was my mom since she was 2, hard to explain... but it was confirmed through a regression and we have a very strong bond. She is only 7, she is way to young to understand and I wouldn't want to tell her but in time she will figure it out anyway. She also has a deep love for tulips... gotta be memories from Holland.

 

[deborah]

Do any newer members have experiences with their children? Care to share? This part of memory recall, to me, is fascinating and a great way to validate,to some small degree what you experience.

 

[Nightrain]

From the very first moment that each of my sons were born, I sensed an immediate recognition, and they seemed to respond in kind. That was before I ever seriously considered the possibility of reincarnation. In fact, that was the primary motivation which led me to read about Ian Stevenson's studies on the subject. The strength of my suspicions has grown along with the boys; and, now that they are men, I am even more certain that we have known each other during times long past. However, I have not yet been able to determine when. It is interesting to note that some of their friends have reminded me of certain friends that I lost in Vietnam. Some of those friends of my sons also subsequently were killed violently, as if they were repeating some kind of cycle.