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Soul Mate Mistaken Identity?

BriarRose

BriarRose

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I am going to post this because so many members are curious about the concept of soul mates, and have suffered because of bad experiences.

My daughter is now 22 years old. I love her dearly, but she has a hard time connecting with people, in spite of intelligence, talent, and physical beauty. She was very isolated in high school. The perceived shallowness of her fellow students was something she found "off-putting". She shared a class with a boy who very much attracted her. His physical appearance wasn't one that you would think teen-age girls would be drawn to. They developed a friendship, which she tried to move to romance. He seemed to concur, but it turned out that he was gay, and hadn't come to terms with it yet. It ended very badly, and she was hurt. In college, she met a young man who's appearance was so similar to the first experience that she wouldn't go out with him. Eventually, she did, and the rest is history. They are deeply devoted to each other. She says he is the "soul mate" she was looking for in high school. She was fooled by the shared physical resemblance to the other boy. His Mom, who is also a PL believer, told me that he had been describing the girl he would love since he was 12, and it's my daughter in every particular. The point of this long post is that yes, we may recognize a soul mate by appearance, but it is possible to make "mistakes". Don't give up- the one you are looking for may be out there, and physically resemble the "bad" experiences! It may be why we have a physical "type" we are drawn to as clues for recognition.
 
This sounds like my own experience with a case of pre-life planned programming...from as early as I can remember I have been attracted to petite women with short, dark (dark blond, dark red, dark brunette) hair. As an overly confident teen ager and young adult I created some very humerous (in retrospect) situations with my attraction to any woman who fit that description! All the women I dated fit that profile and even more who would have nothing to do with me.


My ex-fiance had short auburn hair while my wife has short brunetter hair, and both are longterm soulmates. At one point in the akashic records I asked guidance why I tend to find short haired petite women so attractive and received enormous peals of laughter, then vignettes of memories in which I embarrassed myself while intent on meeting or introducing myself to a woman with those qualities. Then came a quick view of a group of us in final preparations for this lifetime and we were having a great time going over clues as to how we would meet and what we'd look like here in this lifetime. Then guidance again throws in the message that I am following my plan so closely that I am almost farcical in my deliberate execution of it! I expected to find love and compassion with a woman who fit that criteria and I was intent on not letting the opportunity pass!
 
cover face well you've described my love of women to a T as well. It's funny when I look back on it that I was so determined as well to have a girlfriend that fit a certain image and now that I'm married and I look around I say to myself that wow, I really put the blinders on!


You know in the newton books, there's a scene in which someone describes trying to remember a particular necklace because they're supposed to meet the person wearing it later. I really connected with that because for one, you hear so many stories of people having photographic memories of when they saw their significant other for the first time (maybe because it was pre-loaded) and also because I had the same experience. The thing that stood out to me was that almost everything she was wearing was blue. And both my wife and her previous life favored short hair, despite long hair being the norm in the culture and time.
 
As I read the above responses, I became more sure that we are "pre-loaded". When I first saw my current husband, I thought,"I've always wanted one just like you, but you must have a wife and three little children at home!" Fortunately, he didn't. He says he'd always wanted a red-head of his own, and was attracted to the colors I wore. The two boys I mentioned in the original post are tall, over-weight, and bearded with long dark hair. My daughter is slender, waist-length auburn hair, and looks like an elf maiden from Lothlorien. They don't "fit" physically, but their souls are like a lock and the right key. You really can't explain these attractions without pre-life recognition clues in the equation.
 
BriarRose


Perhaps she met the first man so she would cherish the soul mate when he appeared on the scene ...
 
Mama2HRB said:
BriarRose
Perhaps she met the first man so she would cherish the soul mate when he appeared on the scene ...
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Indeed...its amazing to meet that one you're pre-loaded to find...and while I was intent and clear on the concept, my execution in discovering the particular souls was ham-handed to say the least! I only wish I had developed a sense of discretion with my single-mindedness earlier...when I was right, there was a very powerful and internally significant feeling which I noted then but seemingly forgot in the next venture. I have since found the ability to feel as much as see, which I hope will reduce my hilarious faux pas in future ventures. I have been assured my next significant meeting will not be driven by such a strong identification with physical appearance*, a la Totoro's blinders (with which I identify completely), but will be headlined by a very powerful feeling or sense of connection.


*I was just laughed at for writing this...guidance tells me I will still be searching...he pushes the image of me standing there with a clipboard and pen ticking off the boxes for the recognized characteristics, as I see "her" and then being stunned by the feeling/sensation of that meeting! C'mon guys...make up my mind!
 
Mama, the lovers in question are in the kitchen eating their dinner. They don't mind that I shared their story. She reminded me that the two boys even have both initials in common. Her soul mate's last name is "Flint", and the exe's last name means "iron" in Spanish. You can understand her confusion!


Usetawuz, the clipboard made me laugh. I'm glad you will be "thunderstruck" by love again. It is such a good feeling.
 
Yeah.


I met a soulmate in 2009 (almost 4 years ago now..).


Even before we met? I was attracted to people who reminded me of her. Even similar sounding surnames. It's very very odd.


I am beginning to agree with the pre-programming. It was probably programmed in so I would recognize her (which for me happened as soon as our eyes met).


Probably will never see her again - but the same programming remains.


My ex however, was a deviation from type in a lot of ways.
 
Mimic, perhaps yours was also a case of mistaken soul-mate identity. My daughter almost "wrote" her fiance off because of the resemblance. Could the real "one" still be out there? The surname clue seems to be another "tell". It would help if the "rules" allowed things to be a little less obscure.
 
BriarRose said:
The point of this long post is that yes, we may recognize a soul mate by appearance, but it is possible to make "mistakes".
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From my experiences, when it comes to 'destined' affairs of the heart - there are no mistakes. After my mystical NDE's as a child, I would often talk about the 'dates' my 'soul' had lined up for me on this side of the veil. In my early 20's, I tried to describe the 'dates' (soulmate promises) I had to fulfill prior to meeting my 'match.' As a child and early adult - I had sight from my NDE's of the 'destined' match that was pre-arranged prior to incarnating into my body. I recall talking to someone about it and said, "My mind may get confused from time to time but when it comes to meeting my' match' I know my heart is going to jump out and let my mind know when that moment arrives in such a way that can't be mistaken."


The old-timers (senior members of my family) would tell me the same thing when talking about love. (I was 8 years old when I began talking about my 'match made in heaven.) I always said the arranged 'dates' (soulmate promises) along the way where set up to help prepare me for the 'meeting of the hearts' that was the 'match made in heaven' I often spoke about after my NDE at the age of 8.


I agree our minds may be confused about the destined match set up for us - but I feel no 'soul mate' meeting is ever a case of mistaken identity. It could be some heart ache is needed prior to meeting your life long match to help mold you for the relationship of a life time we all start searching for at a young age.


Sincerely,


DKing
 
DKing, as always, your post was enlightening. It seems to me that your connection to "source" is much stronger than most people, so it is easier for you not to make "mistakes". Most of us are souls crying in the desert, searching for sense in what may seem nonsensical lives. I, too, recognized my husband instantly, and there was no mistake. It seems to me that many people are pursuing the "soul mate" with too much vigor. What we pursue sometimes eludes us. People seem to "beat themselves up" for what they think was a lost soul-mate experience, and then despair that they will find one again. I agree with you, and Mama, that some relationships are "training wheels" to take us to an authentic love. No experience is without purpose, but it is not good to surrender to despair, when what you need is around the next corner.
 
BriarRose said:
No experience is without purpose, but it is not good to surrender to despair, when what you need is around the next corner.
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Exactly.


This reminded me of another conversation I had back in the early 80's with a small group of friends. The subject matter was mystical and this was the point I was trying to stress. We usually fall into despair over our 'want's' and 'desires' while losing 'sight' due to the blindness of the human condition of our true and real needs. I was trying to remind my self of this prior to my own 'blindness' setting in due to the 'human condition.' (I knew I was going to lose memories of my NDE's as I got older.) I knew that 'mind' was divided into two 'spheres.' (The conscious was focused on the 'outer world' while the 'unconscious' is always focused on the 'inner world.') The importance of 'meditation' was to point your outer mind inward for the 'true reality' of what was ahead as far as the 'need' department was concerned. (I loved the Stone's melody "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.)


This shaped the most important prayer I used in my young life. To give gratitude of the fact that all my needs were taken care of in the future - regardless of how blind I was to it - while I chased after my 'want's' and 'desires' trying to avoid the pitfalls of despair when the physical 'wants' and 'desires' went unfulfilled.


In the end (after our demise) and we look back on our lives - we find - we got exactly what we came here for in the first place and see that all our needs were taken care of by an unseen spiritual hand regardless of the thoughts we may have had due to our blindness.


Sincerely,


DKing
 
Your post reminds me of a country western song my husband loves called "Thank God For Unanswered Prayers". It's so difficult to separate wants from needs in the material realm, as well as the spiritual. The knowledge you've been given lends a certain faith and grace to your perceptions, DKing.
 
When I was in my mid 20's I saw an old time movie from the 1950's. For some reason I really liked the actor from the movie and I also loved his smooth talking slightly used car salesman personality. I was determined to find a man who fit that.


I talked to 2 psychics in my 20's and they both told me that the man I was to settle down with was a smooth talking, well groomed man (similar to the character in the movie). When I met my current bf, surprisingly he looked exactly like the actor in the 1950's movie I saw that I had a crush on. I met my now bf in my early 30's many years after I saw the movie and talked to those 2 psychics but I feel as if though that movie prepared me for what was to come and what to expect for the future.
 
When I was four, I saw a movie on TV called "Without Reservations". It starred John Wayne, Claudette Colbert, and an actor named Don DeFore. He played John Wayne's side kick. I didn't fall in love with Wayne, it was Don DeFore. I thought he was the best-looking man my four year old eyes had ever seen, second banana or not! Several years after meeting my husband, I realized he could pass for Don DeFore's younger brother. "Imprinting" is very strong, probably for most people.
 
BriarRose said:
Mimic, perhaps yours was also a case of mistaken soul-mate identity. My daughter almost "wrote" her fiance off because of the resemblance. Could the real "one" still be out there? The surname clue seems to be another "tell". It would help if the "rules" allowed things to be a little less obscure.
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No. She was the real thing- I was on exchange for five weeks at the time in 2009. Haven't seen her since though.


But I'm okay with that. It could just have been a cosmic"hi" kinda thing.


Although I saw a psychic a year prior who said I would meet someone and know right away - among other things. At the time I thought it was impossible and stupid.. apparently not.
 
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