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What would you do in this life if you knew you would succeed?

Mere Dreamer

Mere Dreamer

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Someone asked me this question a few years ago, just as I was beginning to emerge from depression. At the time I was in the habit of saying, "I want to (...) but I know I can't. It's so horrible to be someone who is too weak do the things I dream of doing."

Well, let me tell you, I was very, very wrong about my abilities! (And this question was part of the path to seeing myself more clearly.)

--Become free of fear? Done! I left the abusive relationships in my life. Now I rarely worry anymore, and have new mental habits for dealing with stress before it affects my health.

--Sell my art? Done! And creating a business out of it, too!

--Be a good friend? Turns out I already was, I just needed to believe my friends instead of assuming they were just being nice.

--Help others? That, too, was something I was already doing. Now that I believe I can, I see opportunities everywhere.

--Connect with artists? Not only am I connecting with them, but I am learning to connect them to each other. I love collaborating in art and life, and beautiful paths are opening ahead of me.

So what about you? What would you do in this life if you knew you would succeed? Maybe ... just maybe ... you're already on your way there.

Feel free to share related experiences. I love learning from other's life lessons. (Saves me from bad choices sometimes.) LOL
 
For ourselves personally or for Society as a whole?


For myself personally, I would want the "home of my dreams". Okay, I've got the best home I could within my limited resources. But...I'm human and the home of my dreams would be good. I know the exact house I have in mind....errr...back in my home area...and its currently on sale at a vastly reduced price of ......over £600,000cover face.


For Society as a whole, then I think (possibly/maybe....) that I might have "made my mark" in my life to date, but it would be nice to think "That there scheme is quite definitely entirely down to me and wouldn't have happened without me", rather than "I'm pretty certain that that particular scheme is mine:D and pleased with that. Cor...did I really manage that?:D" but I cant be quite sure it did originate from me - just 90%.


It would be nice to be absolutely 100% definite that "Yep...that's mine and yay...its doing well:thumbsup:".


I guess many of us would like to feel that we have Made A Difference iyswim.
 
I'm in the middle of figuring it out!


I think that certainly, reincarnation awareness contains messages for us about how to solve our problems and move forward.


If I could do it, for me, it would be to become an author (of many types of books) with the focus on trying to push the spiritual side of reincarnation and not the spooky or new age side of it.
 
I don't know what I do If could succeed in this life.


Had near success in the 1920's.


Family? Children? bigger question mark.


Friends? outside internet been burned too many times.


All seems foreign too me in this life.
 
Totoro said:
If I could do it, for me, it would be to become an author (of many types of books) with the focus on trying to push the spiritual side of reincarnation and not the spooky or new age side of it.
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That would be amazing... I'll read them! :thumbsup:
Ceridwen said:
I know the exact house I have in mind....errr...back in my home area...and its currently on sale at a vastly reduced price of ......over £600,000cover face.
For Society as a whole, then I think (possibly/maybe....) that I might have "made my mark" in my life to date, but it would be nice to think "That there scheme is quite definitely entirely down to me and wouldn't have happened without me", rather than "I'm pretty certain that that particular scheme is mine:D and pleased with that. Cor...did I really manage that?:D" but I cant be quite sure it did originate from me - just 90%
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Wow ... I bet the house is amazing! Who knows if you'll figure a way to the cash for it this time, or save it for next time around. My newest goals have to do with world travel. I'm working on making an income to support them!!! :cool:


It's wonderful to see where you've made your mark in the world, and if you were part of it then I think it was an important part. Have you ever seen a watch that's missing "just one piece"??? Doesn't work.... Hehe. I remind myself of that when I feel unimportant.


We don't always get to know about it when we make a big difference. How many never knew how much the world would remember them after they died? So I'm doing my best to grow in such a way that I leave something of value to others whenever possible.


Shadows, you have time and there are more people than the few you have met. Keep on noticing the good things about yourself and other people. Sometimes we have to learn to see the beautiful side of life.


I've learned it's the same sort of mental effect that happens when I buy a new game or car ... suddenly everyone seems to have the same one! But what really happened is that now I'm noticing what was already there. Because I own it, I see it.


So if you take ownership of the good in yourself, you will see it in yourself ... and in others, too. It's always there.
 
I come for semi dysfunctional family.


Like the comedian Christopher Titus.


My life is no where as bad as his was.


But there are parts of my life can be taken from his.


I never really felt true.. joy, even that word seems so


alien to me. If ever felt true happiness


and fulfillment. I really don't know what I would


do with myself. OMG He's peaked it's over.


As Titus would say.:rolleyes:


Good things hmmm... On one hand ?


3 on fairly good days.
 
Sometimes it's like panning for gold or being an archeologist, Shadows. You get to keep all the bits and pieces you find, and they add up to a fortune over time. Every once in a while you'll find a real nugget of good, and sometimes you find a whole mine.


LOL If you get to the top of one mountain, there's always another one to climb. Ehehe :cool: Mixing metaphors can create quite the situation ... What an adventurous life you have ahead of you!
 
Count yourself one lucky ones that succeeded with your art.


I have the mentality of old masters.


Michelangelo, Da Vinci, Dali etc.


As somebody said once, Torture Enriches An Artist Soul.


I have suffered a long time.


How much more I ask myself.


I give up art for writing for now.


seems more freeing.
 
Personally Mere Dreamer, Now I have problems with this question it seems. Now instead of the word 'Do', how often have I thought in life it should be the word 'Be' that we should focus on instead! And instead of being that person someone else wants one to 'Be' or what modern society wants one to 'Be'. People first need to just be themselves! And then to follow their own bliss. Then what is the meaning to succeed in life? I think this will have many a various meaning. Is it to be successful in terms of modern society with a nice house, money, and such? Or to succeed in life, does it just mean that you are in your bliss, content, and fully enjoying life. For instance succeeding in life and one's definition will vary if one is living in some large city like Tokyo - London - or New York in this modern world. Or one is an Indian living primitively in the South American jungles, a bushmen in Africa, an Australian Aborigini in the outback of Australia, or such.


Now as for myself, with all of my wilderness wanderings thru the years, have personally rejected what this modern day society says that what one must do to 'Succeed' in life. I personally do not have much in what this society terms what one must have and do to so call succeed in life it seems. Personally I live a very simple life it seems. But I have had an absolutely Great Life with wandering in the wilds!!! It has been Absolutely Fabulous!!! It has indeed been Great!!! Many years ago in my youth, I went to the wilds and loved it! And here after all these years am still heading to the wilds with wandering about and living. Just personally have absolutely loved it!!! So if to succeed in life means you are happy and content with life, and enjoying life then guess one has succeeded in this present life! And guess just as for myself, do think this present life has been such a success it seems. Maybe before this life is over someday I just might write a book on all my adventures.


Personally do think that Life is Absolutely Great! Life offers so incredibly much with sooooo much to see, to do, and to experience. What one person might want to see, to do, and to experience in life might be one thing for one person but it will be soooo different from someone else. I personally have had quite a few people who have criticized me thru the years for wandering in the wilds and not settling down and not following society's norm. O Well! But who is really the judge in the game of life.


Do think if one is really content in one's life, enjoying life, and in one's bliss so to speak ... then maybe this person is personally already succeeding in life for isn't this what it is all about with just to 'Enjoy Life' so to speak.


Just my personal opinion. Wishing Everyone the Best!
 
I want to read your book! What you post here is always inspiring, so that would be wonderful.

kmatjhwy said:
Personally Mere Dreamer, Now I have problems with this question it seems. Now instead of the word 'Do', how often have I thought in life it should be the word 'Be' that we should focus on instead! And instead of being that person someone else wants one to 'Be' or what modern society wants one to 'Be'. People first need to just be themselves! And then to follow their own bliss. Then what is the meaning to succeed in life?
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You are absolutely right! I never even considered that element of the question because the "being yourself" transformation was sourced elsewhere, and these concepts just combined together inside without pointing out the differences between doing and being.


When I AM, I do what I find important, but "doing" isn't the first part.


And, of course, what is success is up to our inner selves, as you say. I was very surprised to discover that I'd always known my intended direction, I was just too afraid of being myself to head that way.


coffee Now I, too, do "crazy" things according to some people, anyway ... because apparently I am. LOL :cool:
 
Mere Dreamer, thanks for the compliment! Now I have had quite a few people who have encouraged me to write a book with all of my wilderness experiences thru the years.


Do think this is a very common mistake in this modern society will say. How many get so caught up with what are they going to 'Do' and such with pursuing some career, that they forget the word 'Be' and getting touch with their real Inner Selves do think.


Yes we all do 'Crazy' things at times.


Wishing You the Best!
 
I want to publish my book, too, and it is about to happen. I am sooo close, just got the cover artwork yesterday!!


What stopped me from finishing for years was my fear of finishing it. I teamed up with a wonderful editor and have grown so much through it.


My second book is patiently awaiting it's finish ... well, maybe not so patiently, lol ... every now and then I swear it stomps its feet :D


With self publishing out there the ball is finally in the court of the writer. The best piece of advice I can give you about your book is JUST DO IT.


Then let me know, I'd love to buy it, too! :D
 
I would probably write and publish my memoir about my cancer battle. I made the mistake of not keeping a journal, so it's hard to pinpoint certain events with total accuracy. Plus, some of the stuff I would mention would take jabs at certain people, which I know would stir up some animosity with certain friends and family. But I would want to be able to help people through a book.
 
I would drop everything and move half a continent away to give my husband his best shot at pursuing his dream job.


Oh. Wait. . .


As hard as it is to raise children here, so far away from family, it is good to be reminded that even if we do not succeed, at least we tried. So many people do not even try, and so, will never know what might have been.


On another note, I, too, am looking forward to all of the books!
 
Totoro said:
I'm in the middle of figuring it out!
If I could do it, for me, it would be to become an author (of many types of books) with the focus on trying to push the spiritual side of reincarnation and not the spooky or new age side of it.
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Just do it. Write an eBook. I will send you links to help you. Costs nothing but your time. I would love to read it and I am sure there are many others that would, too. :)
 
themword said:
I would probably write and publish my memoir about my cancer battle. I made the mistake of not keeping a journal, so it's hard to pinpoint certain events with total accuracy. Plus, some of the stuff I would mention would take jabs at certain people, which I know would stir up some animosity with certain friends and family. But I would want to be able to help people through a book.
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Start with what you have then go back and fill it all in. As I said above, all it costs now is your time. You CAN fulfill this dream and help others.
 
The books I am currently formatting (one a censored version of the other) started by linking together emails, texts and what I remembered of phone calls. I put that together in a short story then just kept building on it.


When my editor GrahamJQ came into the picture it really shaped up into an amazing book. He has taught me much, but the most important thing he taught me is to believe in myself.


So, to all of you I saw write .. then link us so we can buy and read your books!


Good luck! wine**
 
Blueheart said:
I would drop everything and move half a continent away to give my husband his best shot at pursuing his dream job.
Oh. Wait. . .


As hard as it is to raise children here, so far away from family, it is good to be reminded that even if we do not succeed, at least we tried. So many people do not even try, and so, will never know what might have been.


On another note, I, too, am looking forward to all of the books!
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Is he into Medicine?
 
Just like anyone else, my life has been full of people who love to tell me "You can't!" or even something less direct and a bit more insidious, like "You shouldn't" or even "You're really not suited for that, try ____ instead."


But I've found success in keeping on, the 'follow your dreams!' is a really overdone trope sometimes but it's quite true, with persistence things happen. Working toward some big general idea of success in life is a constant fight, I wish I could just make it happen tomorrow but it's work and a lot of that work is internal. A while ago I sort of figured out that the biggest one telling me I can't do something is actually me, and with a bit of faith in myself I've managed to get myself into and through quite a bit of university, something I thought and was told wouldn't happen. I'm quite faithful that I can make things work out, even at the last minute and even when things get crazy, it's something I have quite a knack for. Things work out.


But the biggest thing I'd do if I knew I couldn't possibly screw it up or even if I could somehow be assured in some way it would go totally right is have children. The goal of family is a way off anyway, but the main reason I'd be reticent of starting a family is my lack of confidence in myself as a would-be parent. If I was guaranteed success, if there were a magic spell or pill that'd make me the perfect parent when the time was right I'd do it! Too bad ;)
 
- I would prove reincarnation also on my experiences


- Take care of about my spiritual growth and eventually attain enlightenment


- To remember all my lives


- Help the ghosts into the light


- In the end it terminate by sacrificing my life for the lives of others : angel
 
No one can be the perfect parent, Spatz. That is too high a bar. Just try to be a good parent. You will, of course, make mistakes, but kids are amazingly forgiving.
 
Spatz said:
Just like anyone else, my life has been full of people who love to tell me "You can't!" or even something less direct and a bit more insidious, like "You shouldn't" or even "You're really not suited for that, try ____ instead."
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I've heard that from a lot of people too. But in order to pursue the life I truly want, I've thrown away setbacks like worrying about what others think of me.


For me, success is something you attract by the person you become.
 
Owl said:
The second goal would be to prove scientifically the existence of reincarnation and the true nature of the soul. Again, something that could go very bad, so maybe it's better if I don't succeed. So far I can only have hypothesis, maybe some crazy person or institution would provide funding in the future for this kind of research.
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Can be done by meditation, the deeper you go the more you know. If everyone can remember their past it can only be good, so that there will be no war, intolerance, etc. if people realize how easily they can get to reincarnate in the "other" group.
 
MereDreamer, first I want to congratulate you on the achievement of your goals.


Here are mine:


-Full enlightenment 24/7 (and not just 10 minutes a day, lol)


-To play my music on stadium with big Marshall amps (and I don't even have a band as of today)


-To find an affordable place to live near my family, to be able to visit them more, and be more free to travel.


-To feel more confident in social relations and how to deal with feelings without misunderstanding other people.


-To be better at organizing my time and to be purposeful in everything I do, so that it helps me and helps others equally.


-To be better at keeping focus and decision making. To be more outgoing and sociable. Get things done. And to not think too much about it.
 
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