I was just wondering...since Valentine's Day is approaching, I've been feeling quite alone since being single for most of my life. I wonder if it is due to past life trauma...lets say for example from my own past life, a bad marriage, could put fear into relationships? I never had a steady partnership and people never really saw interest in me. I wonder if they pick up anything back then, and because of that feeling it puts them off? I never had any luck. How do you deal with being an old lonely soul? Maybe we can boost each other up
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There and back again
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Could be and something that isn't easy to deal with plus not everyone is the same deep down so to say which does make relationships all the harder especially now days.
GalaxyDreamer90
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Yeah valentines can be hard for those who are feeling lonely. I remember feeling very lonely growing up due to losing my grandma at a very young age. Even when I did have friends as a kid it wasn't enough. Luckily this will be my first valentines with a boyfriend. Dont give up looking for the right person. It takes time to find the right person anyway. I didnt start getting interested in guys until I started college due to being scared by sex ed in middle school and just recently believe I have found the right guy.
cloud potato
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I never cared or understood valentines day in the same way I never understood what chocolate eggs and bunnies had to do with Easter- at the time I only understood the corporate aspect behind it. It wasn't until recently I learned the history of Saint Valentine that brought a whole new appreciation to the holiday which has more to do with spirituality than feeling obligated to purchase giant teddy bears because it's what people do. It's a beautiful story if you get the chance to go over it again or if it's your first time, https://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day/history-of-valentines-day-2
Faith is the antidote, this is my experience. I believe in God and enjoy recognizing whispers from the one living spirit behind the many. This pursuit, desire to connect, has brought levels of contentment and freedom experienced in my solitude or, "in-between" moments. In these moments, even though I am alone, it does not feel like loneliness. It is, expansive-bliss.
Faith is the antidote, this is my experience. I believe in God and enjoy recognizing whispers from the one living spirit behind the many. This pursuit, desire to connect, has brought levels of contentment and freedom experienced in my solitude or, "in-between" moments. In these moments, even though I am alone, it does not feel like loneliness. It is, expansive-bliss.
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Yes, I agree. It's so hard to find someone on the same level of spirituality and are open-minded about reincarnation
I hope everything works out for you and the other person ❤
Simply beautiful ❤ thank you for sharing the link
It could absolutely be from a past life experience as many things can keep following us around, even many lives later. That being said, unfortunately feeling lonely on valentine's day is all too common. There is so much emphasis on it, very much like the commercial version of Christmas. All those pushy ads everywhere, shoving in your face how no one should be alone on days like that... So what about the rest of the year? You can just fade away then? Nasty business, really.
It's beautiful how you worded this, thank you for sharing.
It's beautiful how you worded this, thank you for sharing.
Klaud
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Most of my past selves were the lone wolf type of dudes who never put much stock into love and romance. I actually find it really hilarious that I actively enjoy reading and trying to write romantic stories now. It's a step forward, anyway.
Deep relationships of any kind are still challenging for me.
I appreciate some of the sentiment of Valentine's Day, but it's such an odd holiday that's been taken over by corporations to sell cards and mediocre chocolate.
Deep relationships of any kind are still challenging for me.
I appreciate some of the sentiment of Valentine's Day, but it's such an odd holiday that's been taken over by corporations to sell cards and mediocre chocolate.
SeaAndSky
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Hi Zelda,
You might find it interesting to read about Kaye and the Cathars on the relevant thread. She also said some things like you are saying now and felt very lonely. However, at some point she was able to get in touch with things at a deeper level, and found that her singleness was an aspect of who she was or perhaps was intended to be, since she had been a Cathar Parfait at Montsegur, and had been initiated into a depth of spirituality as a female perfecta (Parfait). All the perfecti, male and female, remained celibate and served as teachers, preachers, consolers, leaders, healers and mystics among the Cathars. It was a very special role and training, one that in that sad time and place allowed her to face her end in the fires of the Albigensian Crusade with not only courage but equanimity. Some of the things you have said remind me of her, though it may be that some of the things that I am recounting are in our PMs rather than on the thread itself. In any case, there are apparently a lot of Cathars returning to the physical in this era. Perhaps you might like to look into the Cathars and find out more. This is just a hunch on my part, so don't treat it as anything more.
Cordially,
S&S
PS--to all the others above, I'm going to put in a good word for holidays, including Valentine's Day. Corporations and commercialism is going to invade anything available if they think they can sell product. Like many other aspects of modern life, this cannot be cured and therefore must be endured. If the holiday is worth celebrating for what it represents, we shouldn't allow them to get in the way. So, to heck with them. I'll be doing something for my special folks on Valentine's day, but that is because we like it and like what it commemorates. I'm not going to let Big Commerce rob us of that.
You might find it interesting to read about Kaye and the Cathars on the relevant thread. She also said some things like you are saying now and felt very lonely. However, at some point she was able to get in touch with things at a deeper level, and found that her singleness was an aspect of who she was or perhaps was intended to be, since she had been a Cathar Parfait at Montsegur, and had been initiated into a depth of spirituality as a female perfecta (Parfait). All the perfecti, male and female, remained celibate and served as teachers, preachers, consolers, leaders, healers and mystics among the Cathars. It was a very special role and training, one that in that sad time and place allowed her to face her end in the fires of the Albigensian Crusade with not only courage but equanimity. Some of the things you have said remind me of her, though it may be that some of the things that I am recounting are in our PMs rather than on the thread itself. In any case, there are apparently a lot of Cathars returning to the physical in this era. Perhaps you might like to look into the Cathars and find out more. This is just a hunch on my part, so don't treat it as anything more.
Cordially,
S&S
PS--to all the others above, I'm going to put in a good word for holidays, including Valentine's Day. Corporations and commercialism is going to invade anything available if they think they can sell product. Like many other aspects of modern life, this cannot be cured and therefore must be endured. If the holiday is worth celebrating for what it represents, we shouldn't allow them to get in the way. So, to heck with them. I'll be doing something for my special folks on Valentine's day, but that is because we like it and like what it commemorates. I'm not going to let Big Commerce rob us of that.
The Traveler
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I can understand you, cause i'm too a lonely person.
at this point also for choice, cause i had too much delusions.
there is the physical lonelyness and the spiritual loneliness.
most of folks feels just physical. so stay with a group to chat, or dance or go into whaterver place to do whatever things in company is sufficiet for feed the emptiness.
but there is also the spiritual.
spiritual loneliness can't be fill with friends company or with a party. you feel alone also when you are with peoples.
on that cause, is by the fact there is very very very hard to meet on that superficial and voidless world a person with a deep and strong connection with another, into spiritual way.
when that's happen, is like a magic. by the fact that you have the feeling that that person is like you have already knew into another time and place, or maybe cause there is istantly understanding, like both thinsk on the same wave lenght of brain or something like that.
well, that's can happen, but is very hard to find that.
otherwise, we are Seven Bilions of humans. if you search your twin soul only into your country or neighborn the probability of find will be very low.
if you search into the most high ranged of view, the percentuage can rise up.
however, i suggest you to avoid matchs and romances sites. there are not good places for that.
also, is hard to life alone, but the fact is that: before love someone, you need to love yourself. you can't true give and receive love if you not love yourself.
and empty heart is like a black hole, so risk to drain love and energy by the closest folks. the result is that folks can run away, because they fell that emptyness, and is not nice.
start to love yourself, and continue with the life of all days. take ever open your heart and your mind, search a motivation for exist, cultive yourself and your hobbies.
try to grow up and now as better as you can on yourself.
a day you will find someone.
i not guess is a problem caused by PLives however.
by one side, is a personality issue. basically you feel empty, and you search love, but you find only other empty on return. i guess is the "law of actration" of whatever is called, basically world answer to feelings. bad feelings and thinks and emotions calls the same things. the same happen also to good feelings and love. is for that that i suggest you to boost up your skill to love yourself and the others.
by other side, is also a social problem caused by the superficiality and emptyness of the current materialistic mentality.
for that, i suggest you to avoid cinical and materialistic folks or superficial peoples that have not ability to love others or are full of bitterness, cause they can be also venomous for you.
is not an easy search, but you should try to surrounder yourself by positive folks, that really love and respect you for what you are.
good luck!