Hello everyone!
Special thanks to you both, Ocean and helz-belz for your kind words.
Since I have posted my initial message on this board almost two years ago, I have received nothing but kind words. If anything, I am most grateful that my personal outlook on this strange adventure is helping others in their own struggle.
@helz_belz I hope that you are going well in your own exploration. I wish you the best and hope that you will find peace in knowing that others are/have gone through the same ordeal, and that life, in itself, will provide what is needed when the time is right
@Ocean I would be delighted to read more about your experiences! I am sure that another very kind and knowledgeable member (looking at you, dear friend,
@tanker ) would be happy to help you in your research and support through this. I agree wholeheartedly with what you said, though, when you mention about certain things being blocked from your conscious memory for a reason. There is a time for everything, and already being aware of what you were is a great breakthrough in many ways. If your journey leads you to more memories, clearer memories, then they will happen when it is time, and when you are ready to receive them. I do not believe it is right for you to push for it when you might not handle what you see properly.
I believe that this kind of adventure is meant to make you grow and overcome, not destroy you or hinder you.
In any case, if I can be of any help to you, you are most welcome to either post here or reach me through a private conversation on this forum. I can't recomment
@tanker enough also, his insight and kind nature have been instrumental in shaping my outlook on many things. He has been there for me, and will surely be there for you, as he has dived deeper than most in the depths of the human nature.
Regarding your last question, Ocean, it is very much an elegant question. I am aware, as you pointed out, that my dual identity (French and British) has certainly shaped my outlook on life, culture and identity.
I do not know if this was by design or by chance - if there is such a thing -, but I always point out that, in my memories, I was offered this life. I do not remember having any say in where I was to be born again, but rather accepting wholeheartedly the chance I was given by a much wiser soul. I therefore give the praise to whom it is due, as I was nothing but the recipient of this wise, wise decision.
I do believe that there are sure benefits to being born in a family with a dual identity. Confronting the two when growing up certainly makes you realize at a young age that much of what your neighbours do is based on the thin layer of culture they have draped over their personality. On my case, it definitely allowed me to have a much sharper understanding of my underlying personality, and certainly taught me much about open-mindedness! It certainly made me more aware that a lot of prejudice towards other cultures is purely based on a lack of understanding that others might be behaving differently, but without ever having the chance to actually scratch the surface and realize that below it, we are all very much similar.
On a side note (I hope the moderators will allow me to post this here), I will be taking part in a podcast on Midnight.FM, where the producers have allocated me 3 hours (!) to dive deep into my story.
I kindly share the link here, it will be aired tomorrow (Friday, 28th of August) US time:
https://midnight.fm/2020/08/26/friday-august-28th-guests-benjamin-carraud/
Wishing everyone a beautiful day!
Benjamin