Rod Turner
Senior Member
I think that that those of us who have lived several lifetimes would have experiences like this frequently. In fact, I would accept this as a sign of an Old Soul.
Has anyone been reunited with a past-life spouse or SO?
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Yep, although I hesitate about using the concept 'Old Soul', I sure agree with you that we have experienced this several times during our lives. At least, I have. The weird thing is that it doesn't mean that you stay together during this life. At a certain level, this is logical. Considering that we have experienced so many lives and dito partners in the past, we can't stay forever with everyone we meet again in this life.
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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How do you know that she is you Significant Other and why are you divorced???I met my SO again and we're divorced now
Isn't that weird to ask someone you don't know intimately?
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Please read the follwoing with a loving heart. 
No! It i not weird to ask because if your divorce is private, you would not have mention at all????
Since you are sensitive on what you posted, and we do not know each other, I will respect your sensitivity by avoiding you from now.
Don't bother to answer my other question 'How do you know that she is you Significant Other ?' if this is also sensitive.
No! It i not weird to ask because if your divorce is private, you would not have mention at all????
Since you are sensitive on what you posted, and we do not know each other, I will respect your sensitivity by avoiding you from now.
Don't bother to answer my other question 'How do you know that she is you Significant Other ?' if this is also sensitive.
I was asking for a friend, I guess you're mixing posts and people.
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Let me rephase my response
Please read the follwoing with a loving heart.
No! It i not weird to ask because if your friend's divorce is private, your firend would not have mention at all????
Please confirm with your friend why the divorce was posted if it is a private matter.
Thanks in advance for your kind gesture
I guess it's a cultural thing. In my opinion, the fact that someone (in general) mentions a problem is not a license for asking certain private questions. I am Dutch and they always say that the Dutch people are too direct in asking questions and I guess that's true but we certainly have our limits, like you're not supposed to ask someone's salary, about their sex life, marital problems, mental health and personally I would never ask about the reason for divorce as well.
I don't know your background and maybe you just follow the cues from your cultural background (if someone mentions a conflict, it is open for discussion by others). I think this is the case. We can learn from each other.
I don't know your background and maybe you just follow the cues from your cultural background (if someone mentions a conflict, it is open for discussion by others). I think this is the case. We can learn from each other.
Rod Turner
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Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Logic dictates that if you do not welcome questions, then do not post.I guess it's a cultural thing. In my opinion, the fact that someone (in general) mentions a problem is not a license for asking certain private questions. I am Dutch and they always say that the Dutch people are too direct in asking questions and I guess that's true but we certainly have our limits, like you're not supposed to ask someone's salary, about their sex life, marital problems, mental health and personally I would never ask about the reason for divorce as well.
I don't know your background and maybe you just follow the cues from your cultural background (if someone mentions a conflict, it is open for discussion by others). I think this is the case. We can learn from each other.
Since you are guessing and thinking, then you are not sure.
Anyway, I did not post the question to you, I will let your firend respond as I do not want to be diverted by your opinion, thinking and guessing.
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In my past life as a male in Pakistan, I was married to her and our son, was also our son then.
In my previous life, he (my son) was my half brother and we were close. I died young, at 39.
In both lives, I didn't spend that much time with him. We divorced when I was 39 (the same age I died) and now a single parent.
I can somewhat conclude that it was part of a life plan or agreement between us so that I could have some time back with our son, so to speak.
But if you're curious about soul mates and such in a larger context, there's no guarantee of anything so simplistic and romantic. People are very complex beings who are always in flux.
@fireflydancing I contributed the information to the chat freely, so I am ok with talking about it, within the context of past lives.
It doesn't bother me personally, I added the laughing face to show friendliness about discussing it.
Understandably some people aren't comfortable talking about such things. But again, I figured I was being asked about context. A stranger out in the wild, that'd be different. Haha. Most people would only say "I'm sorry to hear that, are you doing ok?".
I agree with you largely, as I mentioned in my previous post, but that only goes for me, personally.
However, there are people who want to contribute to the discussion but may not want reveal details about themselves and that's ok too.
@fireflydancing was just voicing her concerns and I appreciate that. But rather than argue the logic of it with her, you should leave it up to the person in question to respond with their own feelings about it.
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Thank you very much for sharing your personal experiences Totoro.
I am very grateful because your sharing shed some light in my search for information and testimonies of reincarnation. I figured that these that these will help me reunite with my wife who passed away close to 17 years ago.
The folowing are a bit of my past.
We were a very loving couple (for 33 years) to the point where we could argue our differences in relationship enhancing ways. Our love grew i good and bad times.
Before she passed, she requested that I be burried beside her when my time is up. So, I got a grave plot for two.
She also told me that we would reunite as siblings. This is my concern - why not reunite as spouses?
On @fireflydancing's concern, while he (or she - I am not sure male or female) had good intention, she opined, guessed and thought about you completely wrong on how you feel on my question on your divorce.
I am very sorry to hear of your wife's passing.
My experience is that I belong to a soul group or family. I've learned from others that many western people prefer to choose on their own who their families are and where they reincarnate.
If what your wife has said is true, you may belong to a soul group. I think many people would like the satisfaction of knowing that things would return to the way they were, in the next incarnation, as you are asking yourself.
That may not always be possible (due to factors in this life) or because of agreements and arrangements between other members of your soul group. Your wife may have had knowledge of something that necessitated being siblings with you, however she still wants to be with you and so she shall be.
That's no so dissimilar to my experience. It's obvious my ex wife cares for our son. She was his mother in Pakistan and wife in China and mother again, now. I'm his father, I'm male in this life.
I spent very little time with him in both lives and I know from what I read of him in China, he missed me for the rest of life. So now, at age 39, my wife left us, which is the same age I left him in China. It makes sense to me that she may have stepped aside to let me be with him. I wish we could have all stayed together, but she may have had other plans for herself.
But the point is, ultimately as far as souls and soul groups go, being together to share our lives is what is important.
Just to reiterate, because I've had a couple past lives that were identified by me and that were also publicly documented, I choose to be open with people who would like to learn about reincarnation through my experiences. I also chose to keep the details of our divorce private, that didn't have anything to do with reincarnation.
Again, this only applies to me. Someone else may not wish to share personal details with others on the forum and that doesn't make @fireflydancing wrong for being concerned; members don't have to share anything that they don't choose to.
It's the expectation of the forum and its staff that everyone treats everyone else with kindness and sensitivity.
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Rod Turner
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I, too, accept the reality of Soul Groups. My wife's family is a good example of this, though I am not sure if I, myself, am part of such a group.
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Can you share on your soul group experiences @Rod Turner
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Hi Totoro,
Thanks for feeling sorry for my loss. However, I was joyous when she passed because it meant she did not have to suffer the physical pains she was going through. Her doctors said she could not be saved, Her doctors said she would be bedridden, she could not eat and would be drip dependent and would need regular morphine treatment to numb her pains. I asked the universe to intervene by letting her die fast as she could not be saved or let her live by being cured. The universe gave the first choice. I was thankful that she passed with me by her side.
Thanks for sharing on soul group and a person can be female in the previous life and a male in this life. I am very grateful.
I suppose your sharing of how soul group or family chose on their own. You may be aware that the linage of Dalai Lamas as follow, ‘When a Dalai Lama dies – or even before their death – a successor is found rather than chosen. Traditionally, senior Tibetan monks conduct an elaborate quest to find a child who is the Dalai Lama's next incarnation. The search involves consulting oracles, interpreting visions and reading spiritual signs; 15 Jul 2021
On people with sensitivities, I remember early in my marriage, I told my wife to share her feelings because I was not a mind reader. We had an amazing time sharing our thoughts. I loved her inquiry on why my work clothes had the smell of perfume when both of us do not use perfume. Our love got better because she asked without a judgmental tone, and I answered to her utmost satisfaction. We had what I call beneficial sensitivities because we conduct ourselves beneficially when dealing with sensitivities. Do I make sense to say that life is best for everyone when people with sensitivity to stop posting anything is they have ‘destructive sensitivities’.
Rod Turner
Senior Member
The closest thing I can relate is that my wife and I agree that we must have made an agreement between lives to meet, again, in this life. It's just a feeling, nothing I could win a debate with. But I do believe that such things happen.
Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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Thanks for sharing.
I had a similar experience. Lightening, psychic dreams (still happen rarely) and seeing through me included. My life was changed too - I would not be the woman or the writer I am if I hadn't met her. However, and this is years after with lots of meditation and several self regressions.I have experienced "love at first sight" once, though -- in that lightning-strike passionate way that blew any doubts I'd had about reincarnation completely out of the water. The strength and complexity of the feelings I had just laying eyes on this guy was absolutely uncanny, and within days of meeting him I became overwhelmed by legitimately psychic dreams about him. Likewise, I felt like he could see right through me. I can only imagine what our past lives together were like! Not "practical and patient," I can tell you that much! But alas, it was not to be. My life was forever changed by meeting him, though, so I imagine we had some kind of an "arrangement" as well. I have no idea what his take on it all was. I know he felt something, but we were young, mid-20's and self-conscious, and the situation was awkward. There was a lot of passion, but it would've been a terrible relationship
Honestly, I'm not sure if I believe in romantic "soul mates" -- I think (in spirit) we know a lot of souls who can play the partnership role in different lifetimes -- but I admit I do see my past life partner as more my "true love" than others. But I haven't met him in this life. As far as I can tell, I felt I'd "fallen behind" him somehow, and decided in this life to become more like him, as opposed to with him. It's certainly incentive to do the spiritual healing work; I do hope to reconnect with that soul eventually. It's a fantasy of mine to meet up with him in our next life and give it another shot. Patience and practicality is nice, and passion definitely has it's appeal, but the steadfast, genuine intimacy I shared with my past life love is the stuff I really long for.
- We were too young, particularly me (I wasn't handling it well at the time but she was to an extent very patient with me, and was - in the end willing to give me a chance that I couldn't take due to circumstances beyond my control)
- We've usually been together and were married in our last life where I was her husband and after she died I became a very miserable man who didn't even have much to do with his own children
- If we had met again later I actually think it might have been a path we could have walked down, there was an opportunity to meet up later and she politely declined (for good reasons - was in a relationship).
But the fact that we met when I was too young to really make a go of things, makes me think we did it that way on purpose. To meet, without falling completely into the all-consumingness of it all. And really, I think I have work to do that I cannot do with her. Possibly because last life I was a wreck when she died.
Edited to add - we really overdid the synchronicity. Like... it was a LOT. Which occasionally makes me think that I did screw up pretty bad that we were never actually together. But life.
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Happy-Thomas A C Tan
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(1) Thank you for sharing your amazing experience @Mimic
(2) Reason for saying thank you to you:
I want to find out my situation. Before my wife died due to illness close to 17 years ago, she said we would reunite as siblings. I did not put much thought into this. My interest in reunifying with my wife was activated when I chanced upon people chatting about reuniting. So, your sharing resonates with my interest in reincarnation.
(3) My past experiences on signs on reincarnation:
(2a) Personally, I did not have interest in reincarnation although I have read and heard others speak of their personal experiences in reincarnation.
(2b) I suppose the seed on the interest in reincarnation stated was planted by my wife:
Until today, I have not personally experienced any recollection of reincarnation.
I recall my wife telling me about 10 years after we married that I have a very small mark on my buttock. She asked me to reconfirm by showing her my buttock. So, I showed her my buttock and she pointed out where the small mark was. The thing is, my wife believed in fortune telling, marks on the body, etc. Now, I suspect that she was told that her husband would have a mark on his buttock.
I also recall that a week before she passed, a butterfly came. On the early morning as she was dying, 2 butterflies came. One rested on her till early morning. A close family fiend said that her close relatives came to transit her to her next life.
So, I have two signs of evidence through my wife on reincarnation - the mark on my buttock, the butterflies.
(3) Can I orchestrate my reincarnation:
I reckon if reincarnation is true and the Dalai Lama is a reincarnation of a past Dalai Lama, I need to find out how I can choose to reincarnate.
By the way, this is what Google says History of the Dalai Lama.
History of the Dalai Lama:
The Dalai Lama has been reincarnated 13 times since 1391, when the first of his incarnates was born, and normally a centuries-old method is used to find the new leader.16 Feb 2021
(4) My appreciation:
I am very thankful for joining this forum.
(5) Note: Numbering in my post helps me organize my thoughts.
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